I don't know if this is really the right forum for this, but it is "parenting," so I'll give it a shot. I debated putting it in the general category and might move it there, I haven't decided.
Earlier this summer I learned about a mountain pass trail that I was interested in hiking, and I mentioned it to my husband. He said it sounded cool, and let's do it. He picked a timeframe and scheduled vacation for those days, and insisted that I do too. I didn't think we'd actually end up doing it, but he was insisted, so I scheduled my work around those days - which was pretty easy, since I can pretty much cram a whole month of work into five days. I don't have many hours.
Anyway, about two weeks ago we were coming up on those days-off - and not having made any plans for this excursion, I figured it wasn't happening. It was a bit unrealistic for our young kids anyway. One day he told me he wanted to catch a movie, so we dropped our children off at my parents' house. Then he drove straight to the airport and he said he needed to drop off a bag for a friend who was flying in (which is not uncommon), and asked me come in and wait with him. So I did. Then eventually he told me it was time to board, and surprise! We were going to Hawaii for a week for my 30th. Which was totally awesome, by the way, and I am back from it now. (He apparently arranged this with my parents a long, long time ago and everyone managed not to tell me.)
Not to spoil a great story, but apparently my parents took the opportunity to indoctrinate my children in ways that are starting to bother me. When I came back, one of the first things my daughter (6) asked me was if [someone] was going to hell. I asked her how she even knew about that, and of course it came from my parents. Then my barely-4-year-old son randomly said, "I don't think God will destroy the world. Because he loves us, right?" What?? He is not very verbal, so for him to articulate a question like that means it's really heavy on his mind. Then my daughter explained that the world is going to be destroyed by fire, and various other apocalyptic details that she had apparently memorized. I knew my parents read them Bible stories, but why in the world did they explore this topic in such detail to young kids? What could they possibly gain from it?
Well, what's done is done, and I'm not really interested in stewing about it. My parents are kind of "Revelations" fanatics and always have been. (That is the end-times themed book of the Bible.) But my kids are stressed out and confused, worrying about topics that I did not plan to approach at all until they were much, much older. And even then, we had planned to attack it as a study of multiple perspectives. So I'm kind of stuck, because they have questions now, but they don't have the maturity to understand a topic like that. And they're not going to just forget about it. I really wish they would have just shared the love-themed portions of their faith, but no, one week alone with the grandparents and it's all about hell. Why?? And mostly, what now?
Earlier this summer I learned about a mountain pass trail that I was interested in hiking, and I mentioned it to my husband. He said it sounded cool, and let's do it. He picked a timeframe and scheduled vacation for those days, and insisted that I do too. I didn't think we'd actually end up doing it, but he was insisted, so I scheduled my work around those days - which was pretty easy, since I can pretty much cram a whole month of work into five days. I don't have many hours.
Anyway, about two weeks ago we were coming up on those days-off - and not having made any plans for this excursion, I figured it wasn't happening. It was a bit unrealistic for our young kids anyway. One day he told me he wanted to catch a movie, so we dropped our children off at my parents' house. Then he drove straight to the airport and he said he needed to drop off a bag for a friend who was flying in (which is not uncommon), and asked me come in and wait with him. So I did. Then eventually he told me it was time to board, and surprise! We were going to Hawaii for a week for my 30th. Which was totally awesome, by the way, and I am back from it now. (He apparently arranged this with my parents a long, long time ago and everyone managed not to tell me.)
Not to spoil a great story, but apparently my parents took the opportunity to indoctrinate my children in ways that are starting to bother me. When I came back, one of the first things my daughter (6) asked me was if [someone] was going to hell. I asked her how she even knew about that, and of course it came from my parents. Then my barely-4-year-old son randomly said, "I don't think God will destroy the world. Because he loves us, right?" What?? He is not very verbal, so for him to articulate a question like that means it's really heavy on his mind. Then my daughter explained that the world is going to be destroyed by fire, and various other apocalyptic details that she had apparently memorized. I knew my parents read them Bible stories, but why in the world did they explore this topic in such detail to young kids? What could they possibly gain from it?
Well, what's done is done, and I'm not really interested in stewing about it. My parents are kind of "Revelations" fanatics and always have been. (That is the end-times themed book of the Bible.) But my kids are stressed out and confused, worrying about topics that I did not plan to approach at all until they were much, much older. And even then, we had planned to attack it as a study of multiple perspectives. So I'm kind of stuck, because they have questions now, but they don't have the maturity to understand a topic like that. And they're not going to just forget about it. I really wish they would have just shared the love-themed portions of their faith, but no, one week alone with the grandparents and it's all about hell. Why?? And mostly, what now?