My daughter has a friend that is a fairly respectful young lady. They are both 12 years old and have been best friends for about a year (after a rocky start) My issue is not with the friend but with her parents. They have done several things that have irritated me in the last few months but last night after my daughter was allowed to go over to her house we got a voicemail that they were going out and she would be back later that night.
She got home at 8:30 and I found out they had gone down to the waterfront for a few hours. Seems pretty harmless (and it is) but in my opinion the parents should have made sure that they had permission before taking my daughter anywhere I would never have taken someone's kid with me for 2 hours without making sure that the parents knew where we were going and that they were ok with it.
They also smoked in the car the entire way (half an hour)
Based on the fact that they don't seem too concerned about letting me knwo what they're doing, the smoking and some other unrelated issues (letting the girls walk to my house at 10pm in the dark alone) I decided that my daughter would not be able to go over to this girls house.
She can still see her friend outdoors and at our place jsut not at the girls house.
My feeling is that if the parents are being irresponsible about these things then they are being irresponsible about others I don't know as well. My daughter of course lost her mind and my wife thinks I'm being too strict.
I think I don't trust her friend's parents and that I'm just looking out for my daughter.
THoughts?
She got home at 8:30 and I found out they had gone down to the waterfront for a few hours. Seems pretty harmless (and it is) but in my opinion the parents should have made sure that they had permission before taking my daughter anywhere I would never have taken someone's kid with me for 2 hours without making sure that the parents knew where we were going and that they were ok with it.
They also smoked in the car the entire way (half an hour)
Based on the fact that they don't seem too concerned about letting me knwo what they're doing, the smoking and some other unrelated issues (letting the girls walk to my house at 10pm in the dark alone) I decided that my daughter would not be able to go over to this girls house.
She can still see her friend outdoors and at our place jsut not at the girls house.
My feeling is that if the parents are being irresponsible about these things then they are being irresponsible about others I don't know as well. My daughter of course lost her mind and my wife thinks I'm being too strict.
I think I don't trust her friend's parents and that I'm just looking out for my daughter.
THoughts?