Sam has been asking a lot of questions lately about families and things. (His father and I split up when I was pregnant, and he hardly sees him. We tried to form a relationship, but it always ended up with Sam and I sitting around waiting for his dad to show up, and he never would... So I quit trying).
First he started asking how his father and I had him if we weren't married.
So I told him that we loved each other very much and wanted a baby, so we had him.
Then he asked HOW we had him.
So I explained that men have magic seeds and when a mommy and a daddy decide they want to have a baby, the man plants the magic seed in the mommy's belly and a baby grows. He asked HOW the seed gets in the mommy's belly, but I just told him I'd tell him that when he was older and he didn't need to worry about it just yet. haha
Then he asked why his dad and I aren't married now, and why I am going to marry someone else and not his daddy.
I tried to explain to him that his daddy and I both love him very much, but we aren't in love with each other anymore, and that just because we don't live with his dad, that doesn't mean he's NOT his real daddy...
Then he went on to say that he wishes his father and I were married and loved each other still, because all of his friends have both a mom and a dad, and he doesn't get to see his daddy.
It's just really tough trying to explain to him that his daddy loves him, even though he shows no interest in being in his life.
How to I assure Sammie that his daddy loves him, even though he is clearly a total idiot?
First he started asking how his father and I had him if we weren't married.
So I told him that we loved each other very much and wanted a baby, so we had him.
Then he asked HOW we had him.
So I explained that men have magic seeds and when a mommy and a daddy decide they want to have a baby, the man plants the magic seed in the mommy's belly and a baby grows. He asked HOW the seed gets in the mommy's belly, but I just told him I'd tell him that when he was older and he didn't need to worry about it just yet. haha
Then he asked why his dad and I aren't married now, and why I am going to marry someone else and not his daddy.
I tried to explain to him that his daddy and I both love him very much, but we aren't in love with each other anymore, and that just because we don't live with his dad, that doesn't mean he's NOT his real daddy...
Then he went on to say that he wishes his father and I were married and loved each other still, because all of his friends have both a mom and a dad, and he doesn't get to see his daddy.
It's just really tough trying to explain to him that his daddy loves him, even though he shows no interest in being in his life.
How to I assure Sammie that his daddy loves him, even though he is clearly a total idiot?