I joined this forum for this reason:
Recently, my son's mum rang me up to tell me that the daycare provider makes our son (a year this month) sit for 45 minutes to an hour. That's it. Just sit there. This is my first child and I everything I learn I get from Penelope Leach's Your Baby and Child. It is impossible for me to conceive of the idea that a small infant who just just got the hang of crawling can be sat down for five minutes, let alone 45 minutes to an hour. When my son visits he's all over the place. And that's fine. If he gets too close to something I don't want him near, I pick him up and either play with him or give him something else to play with (of course he always goes back to the forbidden object).
A little background info here: the daycare provider is my ex's sister and husband that they run out of their house. I know them well and even attended bible studies at their home. i've known them for about three years and i've learnt that the husband is something of a control freak. Not abusive, just a control freak. My theory is this: he's found a way to make my son sit still so he can go off an do whatever it is he's doing. As I understand it, a child's sense of time is different from ours. to a 2yo fifteen minutes is supposed to be like an hour or something. my ex punishes her 2yo by making her sit for 2 minutes (age matching).
Am I being paranoid? right now, I can't help but wonder what this guy is doing to my son to make him just sit there like a zombie. I've never seen it for myself, but according to my ex: 'it's like he's afraid to move until he sees me. And even then, Charles (name change) gets upset when I let him crawl around'.
I'm at my wits end. I'm trying to talk me ex into finding a different provider, but she doesn't want that because she doesn't 'trust anyone else with my kids'.
Recently, my son's mum rang me up to tell me that the daycare provider makes our son (a year this month) sit for 45 minutes to an hour. That's it. Just sit there. This is my first child and I everything I learn I get from Penelope Leach's Your Baby and Child. It is impossible for me to conceive of the idea that a small infant who just just got the hang of crawling can be sat down for five minutes, let alone 45 minutes to an hour. When my son visits he's all over the place. And that's fine. If he gets too close to something I don't want him near, I pick him up and either play with him or give him something else to play with (of course he always goes back to the forbidden object).
A little background info here: the daycare provider is my ex's sister and husband that they run out of their house. I know them well and even attended bible studies at their home. i've known them for about three years and i've learnt that the husband is something of a control freak. Not abusive, just a control freak. My theory is this: he's found a way to make my son sit still so he can go off an do whatever it is he's doing. As I understand it, a child's sense of time is different from ours. to a 2yo fifteen minutes is supposed to be like an hour or something. my ex punishes her 2yo by making her sit for 2 minutes (age matching).
Am I being paranoid? right now, I can't help but wonder what this guy is doing to my son to make him just sit there like a zombie. I've never seen it for myself, but according to my ex: 'it's like he's afraid to move until he sees me. And even then, Charles (name change) gets upset when I let him crawl around'.
I'm at my wits end. I'm trying to talk me ex into finding a different provider, but she doesn't want that because she doesn't 'trust anyone else with my kids'.
