I would be curious to know: you say this young man's mother's boyfriend allegedly abused him. Is this something his mother has said? His father? The police? Or is this something the young man has said?
If the young man has claimed his mother's boyfriend has abused him, I'm willing to bet $10 this kid was spoiled by his mother, and when her boyfriend came on the scene, he attempted to unspoil him. And the kid didn't like it, and moved in with dad. When dad wasn't willing to do what mom did, you hear how bad his life is. How much solid information did you find out before taking this kid into your home?
Do I feel sorry for this guy? Yeah, in a way. But he is an adult, and you are not responsible for him. If you are willing to put up with him and put in the time and effort to hope he changes, go for it. If not, and your boyfriend isn't willing, tell the kid he needs to find another place to live by the end of year. Or less. It's your home, he's an adult, it's your call. You don't have to live with it.
If he hits bottom and is homeless, it might just be what he needs. Yeah, I know sounds heartless. But this kid has a mom and a dad. And with the behavior he's displaying at your home, I'm doubting the abuse allegation - unless there has been a report with CPS and it is on file.
If the young man has claimed his mother's boyfriend has abused him, I'm willing to bet $10 this kid was spoiled by his mother, and when her boyfriend came on the scene, he attempted to unspoil him. And the kid didn't like it, and moved in with dad. When dad wasn't willing to do what mom did, you hear how bad his life is. How much solid information did you find out before taking this kid into your home?
Do I feel sorry for this guy? Yeah, in a way. But he is an adult, and you are not responsible for him. If you are willing to put up with him and put in the time and effort to hope he changes, go for it. If not, and your boyfriend isn't willing, tell the kid he needs to find another place to live by the end of year. Or less. It's your home, he's an adult, it's your call. You don't have to live with it.
If he hits bottom and is homeless, it might just be what he needs. Yeah, I know sounds heartless. But this kid has a mom and a dad. And with the behavior he's displaying at your home, I'm doubting the abuse allegation - unless there has been a report with CPS and it is on file.