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Sue Barashi said:
</s>I can be more specific: my niece just turned 8 and is in 2nd grade. I called my sister, her mother, this week, and Niece interrupted her so frequently and insistently that Sister had to ring off after 4 minutes because she could not sustain our conversation. (Sister and Niece were at a playground where Niece had access to friends and activities.) <br/>
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I'll admit I was surprised—I thought 8-yr-olds could "hold it" a little longer in such situations or maybe even go play while Mom chatted. But I'm not around kids much, so I could sure be wrong.<e>
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It's not necessarily about "holding it" longer or not. If you attempt to understand her behavior only by looking at her age and ask "what's normal", you might miss on a lot more subtle stuff here.<br/>
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Most kids 8 years old will go play most of the time without clinging to their mom. If she doesn't, then does she cling to her mom only when you call? When anyone calls? Or does she cling to her mom all the time? If it's only when you call, you'll need to ask yourself if there is a jealousy problem, if she sees you as an intruder, etc. <br/>
If she reacts that way when anyone is calling, she may be having jealousy issues about her mom, is there another child? Is she spending enough quality time with her mom in the first place? Is there some family issues, divorce, separation, or other issues which cause her to have to "share" her mom or see her less often?<br/>
And finally if she clings to her mom all the time, then how come she is not secure enough to want to explore and play naturally away from her? What's her relationship to her mom? How is her mom responding when she acts clingy? Was there some events in her life recently that caused her anxiety?<br/>
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I am barely scratching the surface here; I don't necessarily think I can give you answers, but my goal is to show that the question you ask is a lot more complex than simply a behavior problem, or an "age appropriate" problem.</r>