Hi!
So, my son, 10, has a little problem with being honest.
Now, I recognize that kids lie. Grownups do it to, and it's not uncommon. What worries me is how glibly my son lies and how often I catch him doing it.
Today's situation? I work at a school 5 minutes from home. My son is still on break, and so he stays at home while my husband and I work. I come home on lunch breaks and stay in touch by phone throughout the day. My son has been making a lot of bad food choices of late - to the point that he's gaining too much weight. I know he's growing, but I am worried that he'll develolp bad eating habits that will plague him long after he's done growing...vertically. I have healthy items in the fridge (yogurt, cheese sticks, celery, granola bars, lunch meat for sandwiches, etc.) but he also has some junkier items in the house (pot pies, chips, etc.). Today, I called to find out if he'd eaten lunch. He said he didn't, so I let him know there was rotisserie chicken in the fridge. He thanked me. When I got home, I discovered he ate not only a big plate of chicken, but he also had a pot pie. When I asked, I found out he'd already had the pie prior to the chicken. He'd lied about eating.
In fact, much of his lies are focused on food right now. He sneaks food, calls my mom and asks her to buy him french fries and hamburgers and chicken fingers (and she obliges since she thinks he's "just fine" -- even after many requests from both me and my husband that she tell him that there is healthy food in the fridge).
My husband and I are a bit health-nuttish, so I can understand my son's impulse for junk since it's the "forbidden fruit." However, I'm not sure why he's lying about it -- he doesn't try to hide the evidence. Any suggestions on how to help my son choose more wisely in the kitchen and to stay on the up-and-up with me and dad?
So, my son, 10, has a little problem with being honest.
Now, I recognize that kids lie. Grownups do it to, and it's not uncommon. What worries me is how glibly my son lies and how often I catch him doing it.
Today's situation? I work at a school 5 minutes from home. My son is still on break, and so he stays at home while my husband and I work. I come home on lunch breaks and stay in touch by phone throughout the day. My son has been making a lot of bad food choices of late - to the point that he's gaining too much weight. I know he's growing, but I am worried that he'll develolp bad eating habits that will plague him long after he's done growing...vertically. I have healthy items in the fridge (yogurt, cheese sticks, celery, granola bars, lunch meat for sandwiches, etc.) but he also has some junkier items in the house (pot pies, chips, etc.). Today, I called to find out if he'd eaten lunch. He said he didn't, so I let him know there was rotisserie chicken in the fridge. He thanked me. When I got home, I discovered he ate not only a big plate of chicken, but he also had a pot pie. When I asked, I found out he'd already had the pie prior to the chicken. He'd lied about eating.
In fact, much of his lies are focused on food right now. He sneaks food, calls my mom and asks her to buy him french fries and hamburgers and chicken fingers (and she obliges since she thinks he's "just fine" -- even after many requests from both me and my husband that she tell him that there is healthy food in the fridge).
My husband and I are a bit health-nuttish, so I can understand my son's impulse for junk since it's the "forbidden fruit." However, I'm not sure why he's lying about it -- he doesn't try to hide the evidence. Any suggestions on how to help my son choose more wisely in the kitchen and to stay on the up-and-up with me and dad?