The reverse is true! Children who were physically punished regularly are far more likely to have anxiety problems, depression and therefore suicidal impulsesMom2all said:I am shocked that anyone in the 21st century would not see that the "new rules" of parenting just may have something to do with the increase in drop outs, drug abuse, suicidal and all around rude behavior of our very modern children.
The drop out rates have more to do with crappy schools and poor methods of teaching that are not based on reason and evidence than the kids. But it's easy to blame the kids and not the adults. The problem here is seeing kids as somehow different and less worthy of ethical consideration than adults.
When you say parents are afraid to parent you mean they are afraid to punish.
Punishment only teaches people not to do something because of the consequences to THEM PERSONALLY, not because of an altruistic care for the needs of others. this should be obvious to anyone who thinks about it, as soon as there is no one around to punish why should they be motivated not to do the behaviour?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PRE2gqjQx5Q
Note these are statistical Correlations, it doesn't mean that every kid will conform, just as not every smoker gets cancer, but why take a risk? There are other methods that work. I don't expect to convince you on this point.Of my 6 children.. 4 are honor students... 1 who made average grades but but has an IQ 2 points away from genius.
as I say jsut because this worked doesn't mean it's the only or best way to do things. Again from what you're saying I don't imagine being able to convince you on this point.I do not BEAT my children... but a hand on the rump when they are young was what it took to get the behavior that I deem dangerous under immediate control.
"When a child hits an adult, we call it hostility. When an adult hits an adult, we call it assault. When an adult hits a child, we call it discipline.”
It only teaches the child not to do things because of a threat of retaliation.
why though? behaviour isn't as important as motivations for that behaviour, I could not steal someones wallet either because I care about their property or because I'm afraid of being arrested. there is a big difference. I'm not casting any aspursions but you should keep in mind results are not the all.There is not a constant battle in my home. Rooms are cleaned.. they call and check in without being told...
I don't have to deal with them, the children I work with love and respect me and so do their parents, I've never have to threaten, coerse, punish or reward anything ever and likely never will. They do what I ask out of love and respect alone.and the eye-rolling smart remarks you may have to deal with