Thanks for weighing in everyone.
stjohnjulie said:
Hmmm... I guess that is hard to say without knowing the situation. Are you talking about something specific?
I guess I really intended this to be more of a hypothetical question, but I'll give a quick example.
When my older son was 13, he had one of his classmates over just to hang out. They were in the basement playing video games when my son got a phone call from his gf I believe. So he went upstairs to take the call and left his friend alone for a while. We have two computers in the basement. One is the family computer which anyone can use, and one is my work computer which no one is to touch but me. Well our family computer was being repaired so only my work computer was there that day. Apparently my son's friend got bored and decided to use it. Not only that, but he downloaded some kind of game with a bunch of software that I had a heck of a time getting rid of (I seriously thought I had a virus at first). Needless to say this was very upsetting because it was my work computer. And I'm sure he knew he wasn't supposed to touch it, as he is over our house enough to know the rules. He's a really good kid, but he just made a bad decision. At any rate, when I found what he had done, I reprimanded him and he acknowledged his wrongdoing. At that point, I was unsure of what I could or should do (since I was dealing with a child other than my own), so I just kind of let him go. He went upstairs to hang out with my son again, and the day moved on as though nothing had happened.
Now, if it were my son, I would have handled things differently. After reprimanding him, I would have given him a more "formal" punishment. Maybe I would ground him for a few days. Since I was in an unfamiliar situation dealing with my son's friend, I didn't follow through with anything like that.
Hopefully this example helps to clarify the question a bit. If I feel that someone else's son needs to be disciplined (as in the story above), do I have the right to do it?