This will be a lengthy post so if you don't like reading so much do not read on.
Ok so I have noticed that from a young age both of my sons do not react to corner time, lecturing, time outs ect. They did however like it when they got rewarded however didn't strive to do good because of it so it wasn't a way to discipline.
Until 3 years ago the only way I saw that my kids (and I know other children act differently) would respond to discipline, be it punishment or reward was spanking. As my first child got to age 8 I knew I had to find another way to discipline my sons that didn't' involve physical punishment, as I think you will agree they were clearly to old for this to be the only way I was able to punish them.
Anyway so that was back then so now the question I am asking is do you agree with what I do now.
The punishment in our house now isn't any of the listed above but more a reverse grounding. Instead of taking something away I planned on giving my child something they didn't like for a week. For example instead of them being able to eat sweets for a week they would only be aloud to snack on celery. I thought through a few options of things my sons didn't like (as they are similar it would probably be the same thing) and noticed that my children are actually quite open and didn't care to much about luxuries or toys ect. Then I thought about how I could change some necessities. I realized that even though it be a awkward piece of clothing to talk about that they both wore boxer shorts because they didn't like briefs. that was the punishment I had thought of. that they would have to wear briefs in the place of boxers for a week.
I then thought into it further and realized the reason that spanking was the only successful punishment before was because it gave a immediate reaction with a lasting effect for my child to think on. So this is the end product that I came up with on the punishment a few years ago.
Once I found out that my son had done something wrong eg. got into a fight at school I would go to his room and replace the boxers in his underwear draw with briefs. Then so it was more immediate (no one in my house is judgemental so this is not embarrassing) I would go up to my on and ask Did you do (for example) punch your brother and then swear at him. Regardless I wouldn't be carrying out this punishment if I was 100% on that he had done it. I would then for him take off his normal underwear and put on briefs 9on the spot wherever he is as long as its in the house) and that would be it. In a week I would change back his underwear.
I don't know other parents views but this has been effective for me, very effective and I am not planning on changing it but what is your opinion on this way of punishment. For your child it may be replacing their xbox with a board game for a week but what do you think of this.
Well thanks for reading and I can only ask that you don't post other methods and only views on what I have said.
Ok so I have noticed that from a young age both of my sons do not react to corner time, lecturing, time outs ect. They did however like it when they got rewarded however didn't strive to do good because of it so it wasn't a way to discipline.
Until 3 years ago the only way I saw that my kids (and I know other children act differently) would respond to discipline, be it punishment or reward was spanking. As my first child got to age 8 I knew I had to find another way to discipline my sons that didn't' involve physical punishment, as I think you will agree they were clearly to old for this to be the only way I was able to punish them.
Anyway so that was back then so now the question I am asking is do you agree with what I do now.
The punishment in our house now isn't any of the listed above but more a reverse grounding. Instead of taking something away I planned on giving my child something they didn't like for a week. For example instead of them being able to eat sweets for a week they would only be aloud to snack on celery. I thought through a few options of things my sons didn't like (as they are similar it would probably be the same thing) and noticed that my children are actually quite open and didn't care to much about luxuries or toys ect. Then I thought about how I could change some necessities. I realized that even though it be a awkward piece of clothing to talk about that they both wore boxer shorts because they didn't like briefs. that was the punishment I had thought of. that they would have to wear briefs in the place of boxers for a week.
I then thought into it further and realized the reason that spanking was the only successful punishment before was because it gave a immediate reaction with a lasting effect for my child to think on. So this is the end product that I came up with on the punishment a few years ago.
Once I found out that my son had done something wrong eg. got into a fight at school I would go to his room and replace the boxers in his underwear draw with briefs. Then so it was more immediate (no one in my house is judgemental so this is not embarrassing) I would go up to my on and ask Did you do (for example) punch your brother and then swear at him. Regardless I wouldn't be carrying out this punishment if I was 100% on that he had done it. I would then for him take off his normal underwear and put on briefs 9on the spot wherever he is as long as its in the house) and that would be it. In a week I would change back his underwear.
I don't know other parents views but this has been effective for me, very effective and I am not planning on changing it but what is your opinion on this way of punishment. For your child it may be replacing their xbox with a board game for a week but what do you think of this.
Well thanks for reading and I can only ask that you don't post other methods and only views on what I have said.