Hi there,
While parents don’t necessarily need to be involved in a session that their children are a part of, it is always advisable to be aware of what careers your child is considering or even suited for.
Before you send your child off to a session with a career counselor, take time out to have a ‘career conversation’ with him/her. It may seem like a task, but your child will thank you for it!
In my experience, I have seen tremendous disagreement between parents and children over what career should be considered. While this is not unnatural, it is completely unnecessary. Parents must remember to let their child decide and only serve as a guide to aid the decision-making of their child. In today’s times, it is nearly impossible for parents to impose their opinions on their children and get away with it.
Some tips to make this conversation less difficult.
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<LI>[li]Think from their perspective. Pay attention to their interests and thoughts. It is easy for us to look at their world through our eyes, but it is important to look at it from theirs. Be their friend and earn their trust. ‘Get them’- their dreams, goals, aspirations, confusion- all of them.[/li]</LI>
<LI>[li]There is a lot of information available. So, do your research as parents. Take time out. Make a plan. Whatever career you think your child should pick, research more on it so that you can justify it to them. Have enough information to discuss with your child. Dialogues then are a little more focused instead of being based on assumptions and expectations.[/li]</LI>
<LI>[li]Since we are more experienced, we tend to think we know more than our children do. This is not always the case. Don’t presume your child’s silence as a lack of knowledge. We need to remind ourselves that we don’t always need to be in the driver’s seat. Give space to your child to think and speak for themselves. In an environment like that they will slowly but surely start to share their likes and dislikes.[/li]</LI>
<LI>[li]You need to put away your own beliefs and judgments aside before sitting down to have a conversation with your child. Make them feel valued and try not to push your own thoughts and ideas. Listen to them. Understand them. Obviously it needs to make sense to you but give them a chance to share their thoughts with you.[/li]</LI>
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If you keep these pointers in mind, your conversation can turn out to be more insightful and productive. Remember, your child must be happy with the choice he/she makes.
<YOUTUBE id="G5MpOm5qjx8">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G5MpOm5qjx8&feature=youtu.be</YOUTUBE>
I hope this helps. You can reach out to us at contact@univariety.com if you have any other concerns.
Regards,
While parents don’t necessarily need to be involved in a session that their children are a part of, it is always advisable to be aware of what careers your child is considering or even suited for.
Before you send your child off to a session with a career counselor, take time out to have a ‘career conversation’ with him/her. It may seem like a task, but your child will thank you for it!
In my experience, I have seen tremendous disagreement between parents and children over what career should be considered. While this is not unnatural, it is completely unnecessary. Parents must remember to let their child decide and only serve as a guide to aid the decision-making of their child. In today’s times, it is nearly impossible for parents to impose their opinions on their children and get away with it.
Some tips to make this conversation less difficult.
<OL>[ol]
<LI>[li]Think from their perspective. Pay attention to their interests and thoughts. It is easy for us to look at their world through our eyes, but it is important to look at it from theirs. Be their friend and earn their trust. ‘Get them’- their dreams, goals, aspirations, confusion- all of them.[/li]</LI>
<LI>[li]There is a lot of information available. So, do your research as parents. Take time out. Make a plan. Whatever career you think your child should pick, research more on it so that you can justify it to them. Have enough information to discuss with your child. Dialogues then are a little more focused instead of being based on assumptions and expectations.[/li]</LI>
<LI>[li]Since we are more experienced, we tend to think we know more than our children do. This is not always the case. Don’t presume your child’s silence as a lack of knowledge. We need to remind ourselves that we don’t always need to be in the driver’s seat. Give space to your child to think and speak for themselves. In an environment like that they will slowly but surely start to share their likes and dislikes.[/li]</LI>
<LI>[li]You need to put away your own beliefs and judgments aside before sitting down to have a conversation with your child. Make them feel valued and try not to push your own thoughts and ideas. Listen to them. Understand them. Obviously it needs to make sense to you but give them a chance to share their thoughts with you.[/li]</LI>
[/ol]</OL>
If you keep these pointers in mind, your conversation can turn out to be more insightful and productive. Remember, your child must be happy with the choice he/she makes.
<YOUTUBE id="G5MpOm5qjx8">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G5MpOm5qjx8&feature=youtu.be</YOUTUBE>
I hope this helps. You can reach out to us at contact@univariety.com if you have any other concerns.
Regards,