My husband has custody of all of his children. The youngest 2 children are from his 2nd marriage. Ages 4 and 6. Their mom refuses to come and get them for her parenting time .. which in a way is a Godsend but I can't stand the way it hurts them. She calls and is never denied to speak with them on the phone except for one time when she called on her weekend after 10 pm .. from THE BAR!! :shocked:
She always promises them she will be here to pick them up and then right before pickup time, they are ready and waiting, ssends a text saying she's sick or she's 3 hours away. In the beginning I was just thinking, maybe she needs time. I would tell her daughters she was sick and didn't want to pass it on to them. Her parenting time started 3 months ago and she has seen them for one overnight when she was supposed to have them for the full weekend, her first weekend. (We go by the Indiana parenting time guidelines).
I know we can't force her to want to see her children but my husband and I both feel that this has gone on for too long. She calls and tells then she bought them things, has made plans to do (xxxxx) on specific visits but cancels at the last minute. This last weekend she didn't even contact until Sunday demanding to speak with them and it was her weekend. She spoke with the 4yo for 30 minutes on the phone and the 6 yo for 4 min. Yes... she cut her off at 4 minutes!!! As stated in my intro, the 6yo has always been pushed to the side.
I Do not understand how she got these visits in the first place as she is legally blind and can't care for herself as well as with her drug use and mental issues. I'm not saying that parents with mental issues shouldn't have their children by any means. Right before dad kicked her out she tried hanging herself in front of the children!!! Dad found her when he came home from work and cut the rope. Pics were taken of her neck.
She has given 4 different residences with 4 different roomates in the past week.
I'm sorry... I do wish to add that I text her to remind her when her visits are. She didn't ask about them for 2 months. nothing about them at all.
I'm sorry if this post is jumping around.. there are so many underlying circumstances... Any and all advice more than appreciated!!!
She always promises them she will be here to pick them up and then right before pickup time, they are ready and waiting, ssends a text saying she's sick or she's 3 hours away. In the beginning I was just thinking, maybe she needs time. I would tell her daughters she was sick and didn't want to pass it on to them. Her parenting time started 3 months ago and she has seen them for one overnight when she was supposed to have them for the full weekend, her first weekend. (We go by the Indiana parenting time guidelines).
I know we can't force her to want to see her children but my husband and I both feel that this has gone on for too long. She calls and tells then she bought them things, has made plans to do (xxxxx) on specific visits but cancels at the last minute. This last weekend she didn't even contact until Sunday demanding to speak with them and it was her weekend. She spoke with the 4yo for 30 minutes on the phone and the 6 yo for 4 min. Yes... she cut her off at 4 minutes!!! As stated in my intro, the 6yo has always been pushed to the side.
I Do not understand how she got these visits in the first place as she is legally blind and can't care for herself as well as with her drug use and mental issues. I'm not saying that parents with mental issues shouldn't have their children by any means. Right before dad kicked her out she tried hanging herself in front of the children!!! Dad found her when he came home from work and cut the rope. Pics were taken of her neck.
She has given 4 different residences with 4 different roomates in the past week.
I'm sorry... I do wish to add that I text her to remind her when her visits are. She didn't ask about them for 2 months. nothing about them at all.
I'm sorry if this post is jumping around.. there are so many underlying circumstances... Any and all advice more than appreciated!!!
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