Hi everyone! A lot of background involved in this story - the background is in my welcome post (New here - with issues).
Anyway, my daughter's bio dad has no custody currently no visitation or anything because he will not do what the court requires. He pays child support sometimes, but quits jobs regularly, or gets fired.
He petitioned the court to decrease his child support because he cannot afford it. His child support was set at $320.00 per month since day one. I have never modified, nor asked for child care, or medical bills from him.
So they tell me what paperwork to bring to the hearing. Hearing was today. They took away his credit for health insurance he was getting as he hasn't provided it in 8 years and I provide it. They tacked on the daycare (which is very reasonable, i do my best to keep it low as I have been paying it myself), and went by the guidelines, and he succeeded in . . . increasing his child support by $130.00 per month. Yep, it is now $450.00 per month .
Yes, I am married, and my husband has supported her when he doesn't and will continue to do so. Anyway, I was outside afterwards (i work across the street and needed my smoke before returning to work) and he walked by with his dad, yelling that he wants to terminate his parental rights and would do it right now. I simply asked " will you?" and he said, yes, send me the paperwork.
I am in a quandary. My daughter is 10 years old and already feels abandoned by her father (he abandoned her before custody was taken from him - if she wanted to see him, I would arrange it believe me) I think that him doing this would cause her to feel very rejected. My husband ,of course, is willing to adopt. What is your opinion on this?
Anyway, my daughter's bio dad has no custody currently no visitation or anything because he will not do what the court requires. He pays child support sometimes, but quits jobs regularly, or gets fired.
He petitioned the court to decrease his child support because he cannot afford it. His child support was set at $320.00 per month since day one. I have never modified, nor asked for child care, or medical bills from him.
So they tell me what paperwork to bring to the hearing. Hearing was today. They took away his credit for health insurance he was getting as he hasn't provided it in 8 years and I provide it. They tacked on the daycare (which is very reasonable, i do my best to keep it low as I have been paying it myself), and went by the guidelines, and he succeeded in . . . increasing his child support by $130.00 per month. Yep, it is now $450.00 per month .
Yes, I am married, and my husband has supported her when he doesn't and will continue to do so. Anyway, I was outside afterwards (i work across the street and needed my smoke before returning to work) and he walked by with his dad, yelling that he wants to terminate his parental rights and would do it right now. I simply asked " will you?" and he said, yes, send me the paperwork.
I am in a quandary. My daughter is 10 years old and already feels abandoned by her father (he abandoned her before custody was taken from him - if she wanted to see him, I would arrange it believe me) I think that him doing this would cause her to feel very rejected. My husband ,of course, is willing to adopt. What is your opinion on this?