My 3 year old step son use to be at my husband's grandparents' house during the week, but now that I am staying at home he's here most of the time. The grandparents totally baby him and don't make him do anything, but I making him do things... Such as not using bottles, feeding himself, going to the potty, etc. But one thing he will not do is pick up the toys and books.
My 2 year old daughter will take out a few toys at a time, or 1 book at a time, and when she is done put them away. So if I clean up while the 3 year old is over at the grandparents' (he spends a night or 2 occasionally) it will stay clean. But as soon as the 3 year old comes home, within 5 minutes the house is trashed. He dumps out the toyboxes completely on the floor, spreads them all over the house, throws all the books on the floor, and refuses to pick them up. It drives me insane.
I read a suggestion to say I was going to throw away anything left on the floor and pretend to do so, then give 1 back each time they DID clean up. That worked yesterday. He kept things clean. But today he said "Fine, throw them away. I don't want toys." and went right back to making messes. So what do I do now?
My 2 year old daughter will take out a few toys at a time, or 1 book at a time, and when she is done put them away. So if I clean up while the 3 year old is over at the grandparents' (he spends a night or 2 occasionally) it will stay clean. But as soon as the 3 year old comes home, within 5 minutes the house is trashed. He dumps out the toyboxes completely on the floor, spreads them all over the house, throws all the books on the floor, and refuses to pick them up. It drives me insane.
I read a suggestion to say I was going to throw away anything left on the floor and pretend to do so, then give 1 back each time they DID clean up. That worked yesterday. He kept things clean. But today he said "Fine, throw them away. I don't want toys." and went right back to making messes. So what do I do now?