Here's an interesting one. I'm 40 and single. Been in the dating scene, and of course, practicing safe sex.
I started seeing a woman recently. Had maybe three dates. We made out a bit, no sex, but was clearly headed in that direction. So, she disclosed to me that she has herpes - HSV-1, to be precise.
I had to make a decision about whether this was a deal-killer or not. HSV-1 is EXTREMELY prevalent. Some estimates say that 70% of the adult U.S. population are carriers. It's basically the virus that causes cold sores. HSV-2 is genital herpes. HSV-1 is extremely contagious, often even through a simple kiss on the cheek, if the virus is "shedding," so it's possible you catch it through a simple kiss on the cheek with Aunt Bess.
To complicate matters further, apparently, each of the two types has a "site of preference" - HSV-1 in the mouth and HSV-II in the genitals - but each can "land" somewhere different. In her case, she has HSV-1 on her genitals. When the virus isn't in its site of preference, it's much weaker, generally speaking.
Anyway, I told her it was a deal-breaker for me, but I feel like a complete heel, for basically bowing to a social stigma, over something that I could just as easily catch from my grandma or something.
I guess, if I were head over heels for this woman, I may have considered further, but I had doubts from the beginning, and this was kind of the straw that broke the camel's back.
Thoughts?
Steve
I started seeing a woman recently. Had maybe three dates. We made out a bit, no sex, but was clearly headed in that direction. So, she disclosed to me that she has herpes - HSV-1, to be precise.
I had to make a decision about whether this was a deal-killer or not. HSV-1 is EXTREMELY prevalent. Some estimates say that 70% of the adult U.S. population are carriers. It's basically the virus that causes cold sores. HSV-2 is genital herpes. HSV-1 is extremely contagious, often even through a simple kiss on the cheek, if the virus is "shedding," so it's possible you catch it through a simple kiss on the cheek with Aunt Bess.
To complicate matters further, apparently, each of the two types has a "site of preference" - HSV-1 in the mouth and HSV-II in the genitals - but each can "land" somewhere different. In her case, she has HSV-1 on her genitals. When the virus isn't in its site of preference, it's much weaker, generally speaking.
Anyway, I told her it was a deal-breaker for me, but I feel like a complete heel, for basically bowing to a social stigma, over something that I could just as easily catch from my grandma or something.
I guess, if I were head over heels for this woman, I may have considered further, but I had doubts from the beginning, and this was kind of the straw that broke the camel's back.
Thoughts?
Steve