Hi all.
I really need some support right now and am hoping you guys can give me some honest opinions. I really didn't want to post this here, but don't have permission to post elsewhere yet.
So here goes..
I have so much to ask. It's all got on top of me as a mum and wife.
I have two beautiful, (of course), daughters who are 9 and 11. They are both very strong willed and they bicker together as much as they love each other. My younger daughter is very strong and can be pretty spiteful with words and her hands to my older daughter who is very sensitive and gentle in nature. It's hard to discipline my younger daughter because she is so strong willed. There is nothing that she relies on, no one toy that I could take away to punish her. I really need help on how to stop them getting at each other and learn to enjoy each other again. I am so scared with the school holidays coming up.
Moving onto the next thing...my older daughter is moving up to senior school in September and is really looking forward to it...so that is sorted. My younger daughter however found out yesterday that she is staying in the same class as she was last year with what I can only describe as the 'less intelligent' children, and half of the lower year. I hate this mixed year class thing. She is a really bright girl and everyone comments on how when you talk to her it's like talking to an adult. But ask her to put this intelligence down on paper and she is not so great. She needs stimulation and has little confidence when it comes to work. The school stopped sending homework home a couple of years ago after some parents complained the children were getting too much. Absolutely ridiculous! Since then my daughters have been much less stimulated and their work has definitely suffered. My husband and I take a good 90% responsibility though, because I know we should have pushed them, and for that the guilt is eating me up and my heart is breaking. I really need to create a homework plan. Anyone got an ideas.
Lastly my husband. He had an affair about 4 years ago. We went through a very difficult time and I've not felt secure since. I know he won't do it again and it's clear to everyone how much he loves me but I just can't break down this barrier. I gripe at him a lot and keep physical affection to a minimum, which really upsets him. I know I am craving this affection too, but there's always this bloody barrier.
I know people have far worse problems than me, but I just need a future plan. I feel like I'm silently drowning because I never share my problems with anyone. People always come to me. I don't cry because if I start I will never stop. I don't want to show weakness.
Early this year I returned to nursing and went to university to get my qualification back. That was great to do something to me.
Thanks so much for reading this. Just for writing it down it's helped.
Please help before I go over the edge!
Sorry for the long posting.
I really need some support right now and am hoping you guys can give me some honest opinions. I really didn't want to post this here, but don't have permission to post elsewhere yet.
So here goes..
I have so much to ask. It's all got on top of me as a mum and wife.
I have two beautiful, (of course), daughters who are 9 and 11. They are both very strong willed and they bicker together as much as they love each other. My younger daughter is very strong and can be pretty spiteful with words and her hands to my older daughter who is very sensitive and gentle in nature. It's hard to discipline my younger daughter because she is so strong willed. There is nothing that she relies on, no one toy that I could take away to punish her. I really need help on how to stop them getting at each other and learn to enjoy each other again. I am so scared with the school holidays coming up.
Moving onto the next thing...my older daughter is moving up to senior school in September and is really looking forward to it...so that is sorted. My younger daughter however found out yesterday that she is staying in the same class as she was last year with what I can only describe as the 'less intelligent' children, and half of the lower year. I hate this mixed year class thing. She is a really bright girl and everyone comments on how when you talk to her it's like talking to an adult. But ask her to put this intelligence down on paper and she is not so great. She needs stimulation and has little confidence when it comes to work. The school stopped sending homework home a couple of years ago after some parents complained the children were getting too much. Absolutely ridiculous! Since then my daughters have been much less stimulated and their work has definitely suffered. My husband and I take a good 90% responsibility though, because I know we should have pushed them, and for that the guilt is eating me up and my heart is breaking. I really need to create a homework plan. Anyone got an ideas.
Lastly my husband. He had an affair about 4 years ago. We went through a very difficult time and I've not felt secure since. I know he won't do it again and it's clear to everyone how much he loves me but I just can't break down this barrier. I gripe at him a lot and keep physical affection to a minimum, which really upsets him. I know I am craving this affection too, but there's always this bloody barrier.
I know people have far worse problems than me, but I just need a future plan. I feel like I'm silently drowning because I never share my problems with anyone. People always come to me. I don't cry because if I start I will never stop. I don't want to show weakness.
Early this year I returned to nursing and went to university to get my qualification back. That was great to do something to me.
Thanks so much for reading this. Just for writing it down it's helped.
Please help before I go over the edge!
Sorry for the long posting.