Hi Jakes Mom,
I'm a 35 year old father of 2 (3 & 4 year olds), athlete, and avid gamer. I also have an Engineering degree and played football in college so I know about study and hard work.
I can say, with extreme confidence that a majority of problems with your son stem from video games. I don't think video games are bad. I enjoy them very much and they can be fun and very educational at times. But kids around 12 to 18 years old can become wholeheartedly consumed with video games at the expense of academics, sports, and broader social life beyond other gamers. I know because I spend time with kids like this every day playing online. Ofcourse being an adult I always put my my family and athletics first but ultimately I do enjoy video games.
Now this doesn't necessarily have to be a bad thing. You can easily leverage his love of video games or TV entertainment into results you want to see. Some simple ideas.
1) Video games can only be played from X o'clock to Y o'clock after homework and study.
2) Console and TV will be taken away if grades drop below X and will not be return until grades are above X again.
These types of rules will give him motivation. Once he start following them you can relax the reigns a little as you see fit or tighten them more.
If I've misread the situation I apologize but I think this will help you out.
I'm a 35 year old father of 2 (3 & 4 year olds), athlete, and avid gamer. I also have an Engineering degree and played football in college so I know about study and hard work.
I can say, with extreme confidence that a majority of problems with your son stem from video games. I don't think video games are bad. I enjoy them very much and they can be fun and very educational at times. But kids around 12 to 18 years old can become wholeheartedly consumed with video games at the expense of academics, sports, and broader social life beyond other gamers. I know because I spend time with kids like this every day playing online. Ofcourse being an adult I always put my my family and athletics first but ultimately I do enjoy video games.
Now this doesn't necessarily have to be a bad thing. You can easily leverage his love of video games or TV entertainment into results you want to see. Some simple ideas.
1) Video games can only be played from X o'clock to Y o'clock after homework and study.
2) Console and TV will be taken away if grades drop below X and will not be return until grades are above X again.
These types of rules will give him motivation. Once he start following them you can relax the reigns a little as you see fit or tighten them more.
If I've misread the situation I apologize but I think this will help you out.