My ex really screwed up, but it's not worth it to me to be angry. I've pretty much completely forgiven him. While I do worry that he may disappoint my child, and while I sometimes wish I'd never gone out of my way to bring him into my daughter's life, and while it would certainly suit me better if he did not exist, he is part of my daughter's life and I want to make things as easy as possible on her and on myself. So we meet him for dinner every couple of weeks, sometimes more often, sometimes not as often.
Anyway, due to circumstances, it has become apparant to my child that her daddy is not welcome around my parents. They would never be rude to him, but they would give me a hard time. Like I've said, he screwed up and nobody can really understand why I don't hate him with a passion. Basically, they are so incredulous that I'm not completely uncooperative with him that it makes my dad angry at me.
So, how do I make my child understand why the grandparents she loves don't like the father she loves? I can't leave it at my parents just don't like him. That would confuse her too much. But I certainly can't tell her the truth about her dad, that he did bad things so her grandparents are angry at him.
So far, I've gotten away with telling her that when a daddy and a mommy aren't married anymore, a lot of people think they shouldn't be friends. I don't know how long that will satisfy her and I don't really want her thinking that either.
Any advice?
Anyway, due to circumstances, it has become apparant to my child that her daddy is not welcome around my parents. They would never be rude to him, but they would give me a hard time. Like I've said, he screwed up and nobody can really understand why I don't hate him with a passion. Basically, they are so incredulous that I'm not completely uncooperative with him that it makes my dad angry at me.
So, how do I make my child understand why the grandparents she loves don't like the father she loves? I can't leave it at my parents just don't like him. That would confuse her too much. But I certainly can't tell her the truth about her dad, that he did bad things so her grandparents are angry at him.
So far, I've gotten away with telling her that when a daddy and a mommy aren't married anymore, a lot of people think they shouldn't be friends. I don't know how long that will satisfy her and I don't really want her thinking that either.
Any advice?