Me and my fiancee have been together for almost two years now. She got pregnant with my child shortly after we got together. We have been down a real bumpy road in our short time together. We had our son, we were living with family for awhile, bouncing from place to place. And we finally got our lives somewhat settled down. SHe has a good full-time job, we have our own apartment, I'm working on getting back into college, we got nothing but clear skies ahead.
And about 3 weeks ago, my son (from another girl) who is almost 3 came to live with us. I've been in and out of his life his whole life, (his moms decisions, not mine) but he knows me, and is more comfortable with me than anyone else. When me and my fiancee, got together she knew I had a child, and I told her repeatedly that I plan on having him living with me soon. And now that it's a reality I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm just throwing him on her and I feel like I'm being unfair to her.
She treats him like her own, but she has also had to make sacrifices. It's not just us and our baby anymore. It's us and our baby and now a toddler that's not even hers.
Recently we traded them bedrooms, we gave them our big 14x16 room and took the small 8x10 that used to be our baby's room. Two boys need a lot more space than me and her do.
What can I do to make her more comfortable?
And about 3 weeks ago, my son (from another girl) who is almost 3 came to live with us. I've been in and out of his life his whole life, (his moms decisions, not mine) but he knows me, and is more comfortable with me than anyone else. When me and my fiancee, got together she knew I had a child, and I told her repeatedly that I plan on having him living with me soon. And now that it's a reality I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm just throwing him on her and I feel like I'm being unfair to her.
She treats him like her own, but she has also had to make sacrifices. It's not just us and our baby anymore. It's us and our baby and now a toddler that's not even hers.
Recently we traded them bedrooms, we gave them our big 14x16 room and took the small 8x10 that used to be our baby's room. Two boys need a lot more space than me and her do.
What can I do to make her more comfortable?