Hello,
First, I would like to explain that I have been a in child care for roughly 8 years as a babysitter, nanny, summer camp counselor, and volunteer in schools. I have a variety of experiences and have served as a nanny for a few families. Currently I am having personal problems regarding the family I currently work with, and I would like it if someone could put my feelings toward my situation in perspective.
First off, this is not a case of abuse, neglect, problems with parenting, it’s about how I feel about my current job.
I have been working for a family for a family about 6 months with a 5 and 7 year old. When I first received offer for the job, I did not want to take it because I wanted to work in another field. I have found I have grown out of caring for children as a job and am looking for a new direction. However because of little job skills, I decided to take the job because of immediate money needs and I had nothing else available.
The previous families I worked for, I generally liked. The kids were great, one family I had major problems with the 11 year old, (she didn’t want a nanny so she was very rude, deceptive and manipulative to get me to leave. She would be as mean as possible to make me quit; in the end this situation was solved.) Of course I had my days, but over all, I enjoyed the work I did.
However, with this family, I have found myself detesting the job since I first started.
1.-Parents expect me to be a playmate.
I have no problems playing games with children, coloring with them, ect.) However the family expects me to be their playmate no matter where we are or what we do. Every moment I am not doing a chore I am expected to play on the jungle gym equipment at the park, play with them at ChuckECheese on all equipment, play every board game, talk with them endlessly, and be 100% focused on entertaining them. I completely understand that as a nanny, I am not just a supervisor; but the extent that their parents asked me be involved with them is overwhelming and tiring.
2.Kids talk. A lot. My 5 year old is always running her mouth, always asking questions, commenting on this or wanting me to look at or watch her do this. She requires constant neverending attention – will follow me to the bathroom and talk to me outside while I’m trying to pee, watch me brush my teeth ect.) My 7 year old is very similar in that her favorite activity is conversing with me. Again, I understand that kids talk, but it is overwhelming that the parents expect me to never be able to say “Guys, go play upstairs,” even for a few minutes. I am not given a break.
3.) Kids won’t play with anyone else except me. I take them to public places, and even when there are tons of kids around, they wont play with anyone else except me or their themselves. Whenever I just want to sit down and watch them, they ask me to play, and because this is the expectations of the parents, I have no choice.
4.) During the summer, they changed my schedule from 7 to 6 in the morning, and then whenever I arrive the Dad will lounge for 15-30 minutes and than get ready to work. I don’t understand why they expect me to be there so early when the dad doesn’t even leave right away.
With my previous families, I enjoyed playing with the kids, didn’t mind answering their questions as kids do like to ask, and over all enjoyed my job. I am very tired and overwhelmed by this families expectations of me. It might be simple for someone to reply “You don’t like kids anymore, go get another job.” Please understand I am already seeking employment else where, outside of the child care business and have been for awhile. I am posting hopefully to get some help understanding why I feel this way. I am not sure if its just me, or if the parents are really expecting to much of me.
I have never felt this way with previous families or any other time I’ve baby sat. Maybe its just that I've out grown that type of work?
I feel horribly guilty, and like a failure as a nanny – I do not understand why I feel this away or why I am so angry at them when the parents are just doing their job and the kids are just being kids. I am payed 10$ an hour.
I found this statement on another website and I feel it mimics my situation and my feelings entirely!
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"... One thing you asked was about "playing with the kids and having fun all the time- I'm having that issue now. It's not healthy for a child to depend on someone to fill his every hour with fun. My older one- a 5 yr old boy- feels that is my role in his life and sometimes has a hard time when I tell him it's time for him to find something to do by himself. Children need to learn to use their imaginations and be resourceful. Just because you are paying a nanny doesn't mean her time is best used "entertaining" your child every minute. Don't feel "ripped off" if she is not busy with the kids every second. There are other lessons to be taught...."</I>
Could parents possibly give me any insight? Do you ever get annoyed at your kids and want them to leave you alone? What would you expect of your nanny compared to me if you had one? Please note I do take care of my kids - I do not treat them bad!
First, I would like to explain that I have been a in child care for roughly 8 years as a babysitter, nanny, summer camp counselor, and volunteer in schools. I have a variety of experiences and have served as a nanny for a few families. Currently I am having personal problems regarding the family I currently work with, and I would like it if someone could put my feelings toward my situation in perspective.
First off, this is not a case of abuse, neglect, problems with parenting, it’s about how I feel about my current job.
I have been working for a family for a family about 6 months with a 5 and 7 year old. When I first received offer for the job, I did not want to take it because I wanted to work in another field. I have found I have grown out of caring for children as a job and am looking for a new direction. However because of little job skills, I decided to take the job because of immediate money needs and I had nothing else available.
The previous families I worked for, I generally liked. The kids were great, one family I had major problems with the 11 year old, (she didn’t want a nanny so she was very rude, deceptive and manipulative to get me to leave. She would be as mean as possible to make me quit; in the end this situation was solved.) Of course I had my days, but over all, I enjoyed the work I did.
However, with this family, I have found myself detesting the job since I first started.
1.-Parents expect me to be a playmate.
I have no problems playing games with children, coloring with them, ect.) However the family expects me to be their playmate no matter where we are or what we do. Every moment I am not doing a chore I am expected to play on the jungle gym equipment at the park, play with them at ChuckECheese on all equipment, play every board game, talk with them endlessly, and be 100% focused on entertaining them. I completely understand that as a nanny, I am not just a supervisor; but the extent that their parents asked me be involved with them is overwhelming and tiring.
2.Kids talk. A lot. My 5 year old is always running her mouth, always asking questions, commenting on this or wanting me to look at or watch her do this. She requires constant neverending attention – will follow me to the bathroom and talk to me outside while I’m trying to pee, watch me brush my teeth ect.) My 7 year old is very similar in that her favorite activity is conversing with me. Again, I understand that kids talk, but it is overwhelming that the parents expect me to never be able to say “Guys, go play upstairs,” even for a few minutes. I am not given a break.
3.) Kids won’t play with anyone else except me. I take them to public places, and even when there are tons of kids around, they wont play with anyone else except me or their themselves. Whenever I just want to sit down and watch them, they ask me to play, and because this is the expectations of the parents, I have no choice.
4.) During the summer, they changed my schedule from 7 to 6 in the morning, and then whenever I arrive the Dad will lounge for 15-30 minutes and than get ready to work. I don’t understand why they expect me to be there so early when the dad doesn’t even leave right away.
With my previous families, I enjoyed playing with the kids, didn’t mind answering their questions as kids do like to ask, and over all enjoyed my job. I am very tired and overwhelmed by this families expectations of me. It might be simple for someone to reply “You don’t like kids anymore, go get another job.” Please understand I am already seeking employment else where, outside of the child care business and have been for awhile. I am posting hopefully to get some help understanding why I feel this way. I am not sure if its just me, or if the parents are really expecting to much of me.
I have never felt this way with previous families or any other time I’ve baby sat. Maybe its just that I've out grown that type of work?
I feel horribly guilty, and like a failure as a nanny – I do not understand why I feel this away or why I am so angry at them when the parents are just doing their job and the kids are just being kids. I am payed 10$ an hour.
I found this statement on another website and I feel it mimics my situation and my feelings entirely!
<I>
"... One thing you asked was about "playing with the kids and having fun all the time- I'm having that issue now. It's not healthy for a child to depend on someone to fill his every hour with fun. My older one- a 5 yr old boy- feels that is my role in his life and sometimes has a hard time when I tell him it's time for him to find something to do by himself. Children need to learn to use their imaginations and be resourceful. Just because you are paying a nanny doesn't mean her time is best used "entertaining" your child every minute. Don't feel "ripped off" if she is not busy with the kids every second. There are other lessons to be taught...."</I>
Could parents possibly give me any insight? Do you ever get annoyed at your kids and want them to leave you alone? What would you expect of your nanny compared to me if you had one? Please note I do take care of my kids - I do not treat them bad!
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