Hi,
My second child is one month old and I have to admit that I'm not a big fan of the baby stage. I wanted to see if I would see things differently with him being my second child. Nope.
I had a hard time adjusting to parenthood the first time around so I wanted to give the baby stage another try, now that I'm fully invested in being a father and I do enjoy caring for my almost 3 year old daughter.
I find myself revisiting the same patterns, saying the same things, feeling the same way. "Why is he waking up already?" "I need a break". "Honey, do you think it's reflux?". "He seems overtired, why isn't he sleeping yet?". "When will this end?"
One thing I should note is that he is bottle fed. My wife had surgery in her breasts some time ago and cannot breastfeed as a consequence. So I guess I am more involved in caring for the baby since I can help out with the feedings. And don't get me wrong, I truly enjoy helping my wife out with the baby this way, I feel she deserves a break too and some decent sleep as well.
It's just living in this unpredictability all the time that is driving me nuts. Is he truly asleep? When will he wake up? Oh oh, he's coughing. That type of thing that does not make me appreciate the baby stage. I keep telling myself that it's temporary and that it's part of being a newborn.
But I do think I am happier when there some expectations and predictability when dealing with children. Knowing when is dinner time, bedtime, playtime and being able to communicate with my children help me enjoy more my parenthood.
Am I part of the minority who feels this way?
My second child is one month old and I have to admit that I'm not a big fan of the baby stage. I wanted to see if I would see things differently with him being my second child. Nope.
I had a hard time adjusting to parenthood the first time around so I wanted to give the baby stage another try, now that I'm fully invested in being a father and I do enjoy caring for my almost 3 year old daughter.
I find myself revisiting the same patterns, saying the same things, feeling the same way. "Why is he waking up already?" "I need a break". "Honey, do you think it's reflux?". "He seems overtired, why isn't he sleeping yet?". "When will this end?"
One thing I should note is that he is bottle fed. My wife had surgery in her breasts some time ago and cannot breastfeed as a consequence. So I guess I am more involved in caring for the baby since I can help out with the feedings. And don't get me wrong, I truly enjoy helping my wife out with the baby this way, I feel she deserves a break too and some decent sleep as well.
It's just living in this unpredictability all the time that is driving me nuts. Is he truly asleep? When will he wake up? Oh oh, he's coughing. That type of thing that does not make me appreciate the baby stage. I keep telling myself that it's temporary and that it's part of being a newborn.
But I do think I am happier when there some expectations and predictability when dealing with children. Knowing when is dinner time, bedtime, playtime and being able to communicate with my children help me enjoy more my parenthood.
Am I part of the minority who feels this way?