I need some advice...
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THis is a private preschool that she attends 2 days a week.musicmom said:
It has been very tempting to go in there and get her fired, but I know that is not the best solution. I just don't want my DD thinking if she likes her teacher that the teacher might come home and have sleepovers in Daddy's bed.
Can you just talk to the teacher and explain your concerns?
Alot of private preschools do not have the same stipulations as public school so she might be allowed to do what she's doing. Especially if it's a religious school. She may not have to be certified. I'd back ground check her or ask for her credentials. Better safe then sorry.
Alot of private preschools do not have the same stipulations as public school so she might be allowed to do what she's doing. Especially if it's a religious school. She may not have to be certified. I'd back ground check her or ask for her credentials. Better safe then sorry.
I did have a sit down with her on Sunday, she said she was sorry and the she handeld things wrong, but when she and my ex decided to pull my DD aside and tell her to keep secrets, that's where I draw the line.musicmom said:
can you suggest how I would go about the background check?
You should be able to walk into the school and ask to see her credentials and also her fingerprint card. You could always do a public record search on her for whatever county she's lived in, they are free.
You have the right to know who's teaching in that school.
You have the right to know who's teaching in that school.
<I>can you suggest how I would go about the background check?</I>
That depends....are you asking for a background check because she is the girlfriend? Then no, you don't go to the school for that. You go to the police station. And put the shoe on the other foot. Next time you have a semi-serious relationship, be prepared that he may ask for a background check on your new man too.
If you are asking for a background check because you have concerns about her as a teacher, then you should go to the school.
That depends....are you asking for a background check because she is the girlfriend? Then no, you don't go to the school for that. You go to the police station. And put the shoe on the other foot. Next time you have a semi-serious relationship, be prepared that he may ask for a background check on your new man too.
If you are asking for a background check because you have concerns about her as a teacher, then you should go to the school.
I truely am more worried about her husband, who I have found out is an air marshall.. Supposedly he doesn't know about my x and his wife. Where does he think she has been since Saturday???
IMO this situation needs to be dealt with VERY soon!
Trust me, I watch CourtTV, and this is almost what I expect to be the next case,.
I don't mean to be rude, but this is the textbook situation, so thwart the situation NOW. Her husband needs to be brought up to speed (when he is not carrying a firearm)
*I am not saying anything bad will happen* but c'mon...live in the now!
Seriously, holy crap what a mess this has now become.
I personally now see this as a "difficult" situation.....I pray to god I'm wrong.
Trust me, I watch CourtTV, and this is almost what I expect to be the next case,.
I don't mean to be rude, but this is the textbook situation, so thwart the situation NOW. Her husband needs to be brought up to speed (when he is not carrying a firearm)
*I am not saying anything bad will happen* but c'mon...live in the now!
Seriously, holy crap what a mess this has now become.
I personally now see this as a "difficult" situation.....I pray to god I'm wrong.
Wow. She's married as well?
Personally, any woman who is married and sleeping with a child's father of the school she works at who asks a child to lie to cover up their secret love-plan is clearly, IMO, not a good role model for my child.
I'm sure the divorce issue is hard, especially since you two still had relations after you split. And normally, I'd say what goes on in his sexual life is none of your concern. But it's apparent it's not going to be kept a secret, even though it means possibly hurting your daughter. I would talk to her again, and if that doesn't work, talk to the school. She's totally unprofessional and out of line when she involved the child.
Personally, any woman who is married and sleeping with a child's father of the school she works at who asks a child to lie to cover up their secret love-plan is clearly, IMO, not a good role model for my child.
I'm sure the divorce issue is hard, especially since you two still had relations after you split. And normally, I'd say what goes on in his sexual life is none of your concern. But it's apparent it's not going to be kept a secret, even though it means possibly hurting your daughter. I would talk to her again, and if that doesn't work, talk to the school. She's totally unprofessional and out of line when she involved the child.
musicmom said:
No, the teacher. Her husband is an air marshall.
And I've background checked people as well. My ex's aunt used to watch my kids all the time while I worked. She met some guy offline and he just seemed creepy to me, so I ran one. Didn't find anything, but still didn't feel comfortable anymore letting my kids over there alone.
Complicated. It seems that you still have a great amount of feelings for him, I think it is jealousy. I am not making a negative statement, it just seems that you still love him and why not you guys have a 3 1/2 year old daughter and been divorced for only 6 months. Well I don't what to tell you other than if your still in love with him get him back or just try to ignore the fact he is falling in love with another woman.
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But she's separated right. If my wife and I were separated I think we would arrange some kind of agreement onto whether dating would be acceptable. Plus being separated, thats like the final step to being divorced. right??
Thank you for the welcoming.
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Thank you for the welcoming.
OooKay... I got really confused so the teacher is actually separated from her husband?spankys3304 said:
maiya2008 said:
First of all, dating so soon after ANY loving long term relationship doesn't allow you time to heal. If you have read all of these posts, you'll see that the husband is sleeping with the wife, and then a week later...sleeping with her daughter's teacher.
Second of all, Spanky is 100% in the right for being concerned about letting her daughter witness all of this. The dad is teaching her daughter that it's not only okay to quit on commitments, but that love and sex are so casual that you can do and share it with anyone.
There is no jealousy there...I mean...I'm sure there is after he just slept with her and lied....but her main outrage is that her daughter is thrown in the middle of things and was asked to lie and not tell anyone!
I don't see where you are coming from at all.
maiya2008 said:
That is what I am being told but she was living with him as lat as Saturday morning. That doesn't sound too seperated to me.