The story: Well, my cousin, who is 14 years old was dropped off about a year ago at my door step by her dad, and he is missing, we don't know where he is at. So my sister, her boyfriend, my cousin and my girlfriend and I all live under one house, I am 22 years old, my parents retired and move out-of-state to some place nice. Our house is fully paid off and we don't have any financial problems, we're all managers at grocery stores and make lots of money, more than enough to raise a child. Anyways, so my cousin decided to get pregnant, she told us after a few weeks, I am not angry at her, I haven't really been paying enough attention to her, none of us have, and we are the ones at fault, her uncle dropped her off at my house so we could raise her. I kind of let her run wild. I know the father of the un-born child very well, he is the brother of my sister's boyfriend, my cousin and him are the same age, and we have already told his parents, and they are willing to raise this child.
I am letting my cousin make the decision of wether she wants to have a abortion, keep the child or give it up for adoption.
The thing where my sister and I went wrong with our cousin, we aren't parents, she's living with us, we're buying her everything she needs, but we wern't trying to raise her like a daughter or something, I mean, she's my cousin, and she is in a house of young adults, I am her brother figure, and we never planned to take care of her, but I love her, and that's why she is still here in the house. I was never strict on her enough I suppose, which is why this happened, I am still not really strict on her, and neither is anyone else.
I look at it this way, I will help raise this child, if she wishes to keep it.. I will have no choice. It was my fault she's pregnant. I also went down to the courts, through the legal system and became her legal guardian, which is why I feel this was my mistake..
On the issue of abortion, life begins at conception though, that means a fetus is a life and has a right to life.. I think when a abortionist performs a abortion though, he is committing a crime and can be sued. I don't look at it as much of a moral, I don't look at it as morally right or wrong, but a political one, is it constitutional or not?.. In cause in the constitution, you can what you wish with your body if you aren't harming anyone.. In this case, you're harming an unborn child.. I am against victimless laws and crimes though, which is why I am not upset at this situation, I want everyone to have freedom of choice, I am not really an anarchist but I am a libertarian/conservative, and I believe in a free society, I won't impose my beliefs on her though.
I wasn't really upset or angry or anything when she told me she was pregnant, I was kind of shocked and I said.. "Oh who's the father?" What would a father do in this case? Cause me not being upset, I am not sure if that is normal or not, am I acting how I should? Should I put my foot down?
Money shouldn't be an issue either, I even have an extra empty room in the house, it is a full-paid off house and I have more money than I know what to do with it, I come from a wealthy family..
As far as school goes, she has one or two more years to go, I sent her to the same high school I went to, it is a charter school she would only have to go to 20 hours a week, it isn't a school with a lot of rules and non-sense, it is opened from 8 AM - 8 PM and available on Saturdays.. They also have at home courses that people can take.. It is kind of like working out of a library..
So, that's my issue, kinda lost right now...
I am letting my cousin make the decision of wether she wants to have a abortion, keep the child or give it up for adoption.
The thing where my sister and I went wrong with our cousin, we aren't parents, she's living with us, we're buying her everything she needs, but we wern't trying to raise her like a daughter or something, I mean, she's my cousin, and she is in a house of young adults, I am her brother figure, and we never planned to take care of her, but I love her, and that's why she is still here in the house. I was never strict on her enough I suppose, which is why this happened, I am still not really strict on her, and neither is anyone else.
I look at it this way, I will help raise this child, if she wishes to keep it.. I will have no choice. It was my fault she's pregnant. I also went down to the courts, through the legal system and became her legal guardian, which is why I feel this was my mistake..
On the issue of abortion, life begins at conception though, that means a fetus is a life and has a right to life.. I think when a abortionist performs a abortion though, he is committing a crime and can be sued. I don't look at it as much of a moral, I don't look at it as morally right or wrong, but a political one, is it constitutional or not?.. In cause in the constitution, you can what you wish with your body if you aren't harming anyone.. In this case, you're harming an unborn child.. I am against victimless laws and crimes though, which is why I am not upset at this situation, I want everyone to have freedom of choice, I am not really an anarchist but I am a libertarian/conservative, and I believe in a free society, I won't impose my beliefs on her though.
I wasn't really upset or angry or anything when she told me she was pregnant, I was kind of shocked and I said.. "Oh who's the father?" What would a father do in this case? Cause me not being upset, I am not sure if that is normal or not, am I acting how I should? Should I put my foot down?
Money shouldn't be an issue either, I even have an extra empty room in the house, it is a full-paid off house and I have more money than I know what to do with it, I come from a wealthy family..
As far as school goes, she has one or two more years to go, I sent her to the same high school I went to, it is a charter school she would only have to go to 20 hours a week, it isn't a school with a lot of rules and non-sense, it is opened from 8 AM - 8 PM and available on Saturdays.. They also have at home courses that people can take.. It is kind of like working out of a library..
So, that's my issue, kinda lost right now...
