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Well, maybe.Tamarindo said:You may want to post a disclaimer that new users with serious, pressing issues, such as abuse, or post-partum, may want to go elsewhere, as they are obligated to help others before receiving such support themselves.
And we Mods agree also. To the point that we have been working on another system that would accomplish the same mission without all the unnecessary posting. We should be able to roll it out soon.singledad said:Well, maybe.
Look, I don't agree with the five-post rule, mostly because it results a lot of meaningless "me too" posts on old threads from newbies,
singledad; PS: For post-partum said:I'm not sure how to interpret this?
Pretty sure SD was referring to thisTamarindo said:You may want to post a disclaimer that new users with serious, pressing issues, such as abuse, or post-partum, may want to go elsewhere, as they are obligated to help others before receiving such support
As a former mod, I highly agree with this. You have no clue how much of a pain in the @$$ it is sometimes to moderate this site. You have to constantly weed through spammers and legitimate posters. Unfortunately, until proven otherwise, I learned to assume everyone is a spammer....bssage said:And we Mods agree also. To the point that we have been working on another system that would accomplish the same mission without all the unnecessary posting. We should be able to roll it out soon.
Its there to keep the bots and spammers away. Without something we are inundated with stuff that has COMPLETELY FILLED THE SERVER at times causing the site to go down.
At this point it is a necessary evil.
Really its a bigger pain for us modding than you know (the 5 post rule). Causing a lot of old thread bumping and a minimum of 6 posts to delete when we do find a spammer.
I think that, beyond the idea of helping others, the main idea of asking for 5 posts before you can start a new thread is to prevent automated bots and spamming programs to invade the side with new fake threads containing adds and advertisements (when it's not even porn).Tamarindo said:Thank you for the replies everyone.
I understand now that you are not open to assisting others who not already existing, contributing members, as there is an underlying belief that people will not give back unless coerced to doing so.
You may want to post a disclaimer that new users with serious, pressing issues, such as abuse, or post-partum, may want to go elsewhere, as they are obligated to help others before receiving such support themselves.
LMAO!!!! I dang near spit my dinner at the computer!Xero said:See! That's two out of five. That's not so hard, is it? You'll get there, don't worry!
I believe that for both those issues, one needs professional help, not merely support, however well meaning, from an internet forum.NancyM said:I'm not sure how to interpret this?
I understand the reason for it. I've always believed there must be a better way, though, so I'm glad to hear you guys are working on it. Thanksbssage said:And we Mods agree also. To the point that we have been working on another system that would accomplish the same mission without all the unnecessary posting. We should be able to roll it out soon.