This past January, we took in a family member's 8 month old baby. He is now around 13 months, and we found an amazing nanny who is caring for him in her home M-F from 8:30-4pm. I have bought toys (etc) for him at her home; however, I recently found out that she has not only bought him more toys but also has started buying his food with her own money. I had no idea she was doing this until she sent me a text asking if she should get 2% or whole milk for this week (we are started whole milk per his pediatrician's recommendation, and I spoke to her about this last week). I am fine with her grocery shopping, but I do have an issue with her spending her own money and/or not discussing this with me first. I would prefer that he have whole milk, and I would prefer an organic brand, and this is something she would know had she even discussed her shopping for his food. Would this make anyone else uncomfortable? I don't want her to get the idea that we owe her something and/or that she has more authority beyond a childcare provider for our child because she is spending her own money on him. Would love some feedback from other parents and perhaps also nannies.