A friend of mine and I were talking about TAG (Talented & Gifted) program--Once you get in, you get in a smaller class with a handful of select kids and get extra educational opportunities. My friend's kid (2nd grader) was allegedly said, it was not "just" to give some kids special education like TAG. I see her point, but I don't believe that TAG is not any more unjust than special resources for learning difficulty kids, or extra curricular programs like musical instruments or sports.
On the other hand, another friend of mine told me the other day that her kid (2nd grader) was very upset with his basketball team because it was too fair-- meaning everyone gets a trophy regardless how many points they score. So, he decided to leave the team and go for more competitive sports that recognize who do better than who! LoL
Now, I am a parent who has been trying to raise my kid (2nd grader) to be politically correct, and have been fairly successful with that. She's always said no one is better than others and everyone in her class is smart. I've never seen her saying any put downs toward any body whether the person is around or not. The flip side of that is she doesn't try to impress others. In fact, she is a little indifferent to what others say/ do to influence her. She has said, she doesn't care what others say, stickers are not really rewards, what can you do with them after all? etc....
While I am glad my daughter is not arrogant egomaniac and tries to be fair and respectful for everyone, I am a bit concerned that she lacks the competitiveness that will motivate her to do better. Based on what I hear from my friends, I guess second graders are developing the sense of justice and fairness. I wonder how to help her form a balanced view on this issue. After all, the world is not perfectly just or fair. But I don't think I should teach her that. She will learn that through experience (or she already knows). On the other hand, I don't want her to be too idealistic and get too disappointed when the real world bites her.
How do you all handle this issue?
On the other hand, another friend of mine told me the other day that her kid (2nd grader) was very upset with his basketball team because it was too fair-- meaning everyone gets a trophy regardless how many points they score. So, he decided to leave the team and go for more competitive sports that recognize who do better than who! LoL
Now, I am a parent who has been trying to raise my kid (2nd grader) to be politically correct, and have been fairly successful with that. She's always said no one is better than others and everyone in her class is smart. I've never seen her saying any put downs toward any body whether the person is around or not. The flip side of that is she doesn't try to impress others. In fact, she is a little indifferent to what others say/ do to influence her. She has said, she doesn't care what others say, stickers are not really rewards, what can you do with them after all? etc....
While I am glad my daughter is not arrogant egomaniac and tries to be fair and respectful for everyone, I am a bit concerned that she lacks the competitiveness that will motivate her to do better. Based on what I hear from my friends, I guess second graders are developing the sense of justice and fairness. I wonder how to help her form a balanced view on this issue. After all, the world is not perfectly just or fair. But I don't think I should teach her that. She will learn that through experience (or she already knows). On the other hand, I don't want her to be too idealistic and get too disappointed when the real world bites her.
How do you all handle this issue?