I have seen some references lately about "Crying it out" And thought it may be a good educational debate. I have some of my own opinions.
As most of you already know my daughter is 9 years old and Autistic. She her meltdowns while not frequent, they are common. About half of the involve inconsolable crying.
My wife allows her to sometimes CIO. While I dont agree with this method completely I do understand why she does it. My strategy is to come into the room with her. Put in ear plugs and avoid any interaction. Kinda like letting her cry it out with me in the room. While we have not performed any scientific study. I think DW and I can pretty confidently state that some type of avoidence intervention will cut the time and severity of occurance by less than half or greater.
I am unaware of any other strategy (especially when considering any touch or talk exaggerates the situation) other than medication to help lesson the scope of these occurrences.
Now this is not a thread about spanking I am only using it as an example. But I think many of the studies for both types of deterrents likely involve repeated quantitative amounts of spanking or CIO occurrences.
I guess I am saying is I am not sure that if CIO used for bedtime fits. Or as in spanking where like I say I was only spanked a couple of times in my childhood. That life long mental issue's will result. Not saying its a great idea. Only that it may not be a terrible idea.
I think we tend to have a kneejerk reaction to certain words used in connection with child raising. When the truth is than many many people have grown up after having to cry it out or be spanked and other unorthodox methods that have no issues at all.
I don't disagree that many people have been harmed over the years by parents misusing, or ignorant of the potential effects, or simply to lazy. To work with more issue appropriate methods. But I dont believe that every occurance is a criminal act. And that it cannot be considered as sometimes both effective and appropriate.
As most of you already know my daughter is 9 years old and Autistic. She her meltdowns while not frequent, they are common. About half of the involve inconsolable crying.
My wife allows her to sometimes CIO. While I dont agree with this method completely I do understand why she does it. My strategy is to come into the room with her. Put in ear plugs and avoid any interaction. Kinda like letting her cry it out with me in the room. While we have not performed any scientific study. I think DW and I can pretty confidently state that some type of avoidence intervention will cut the time and severity of occurance by less than half or greater.
I am unaware of any other strategy (especially when considering any touch or talk exaggerates the situation) other than medication to help lesson the scope of these occurrences.
Now this is not a thread about spanking I am only using it as an example. But I think many of the studies for both types of deterrents likely involve repeated quantitative amounts of spanking or CIO occurrences.
I guess I am saying is I am not sure that if CIO used for bedtime fits. Or as in spanking where like I say I was only spanked a couple of times in my childhood. That life long mental issue's will result. Not saying its a great idea. Only that it may not be a terrible idea.
I think we tend to have a kneejerk reaction to certain words used in connection with child raising. When the truth is than many many people have grown up after having to cry it out or be spanked and other unorthodox methods that have no issues at all.
I don't disagree that many people have been harmed over the years by parents misusing, or ignorant of the potential effects, or simply to lazy. To work with more issue appropriate methods. But I dont believe that every occurance is a criminal act. And that it cannot be considered as sometimes both effective and appropriate.