My son is older now, but when he was younger he loved to play fight, boxing, wrestling, Karate, I remember trying to explain the importance of not hitting other kids, and not hitting first, or hitting girls. I was just teaching him general rules. I'm not talking about defending himself.
Now, my son was not aggressive at all, as a matter of fact he was the opposite. Other kids usually shoved him out of the way to get on a ride first, or pushed him in general if they wanted something he had, I was kind of alarmed to see how aggressive other kids were.
When he entered pre-K one boy who was much larger use to hit him and push him around. Max was getting frustrated of course but was also a little afraid of this this big slug. I told my son, that when he feels ready and not so afraid, and that day will come, that he's allowed to hit this kid back, I suggested that he hit the kid hard enough to make him fall down. (sounds terrible now but it's something my dad taught us) Well that day came and Max took the bully down and it all ended there.
Since I was with him most of the time, I tended to lean toward the peaceful remedy. I told him to use his words, and try to walk away when he can, but I was never sure if that was the right thing to say. How can I tell my 4/5 yr old to fight a bigger kid, or hit a big kid back especially when I knew he was afraid.
My husband use to tell me that a boy has to fight back because that's just the rule of survival and that all through a boys growing life some other guy is going to challeng him. I cringed to think that my son may get beat up or someone is always trying to hurt him. But my husband said he will learn when to fight and when to run!!! OMG
Maybe you guys can tell us stories about being boys,lol what the heck to 4/5 6 yr old boys think about anyway?? lol
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My question is, what did you teach your boys about fighting? How about if someone hit him first, or if a girl hit him first.
Does anyone have the same problem with girls? Has anyone's girl been hit by a boy or has hit a boy first? What was the outcome?
Just thought this might be interesting .
Now, my son was not aggressive at all, as a matter of fact he was the opposite. Other kids usually shoved him out of the way to get on a ride first, or pushed him in general if they wanted something he had, I was kind of alarmed to see how aggressive other kids were.
When he entered pre-K one boy who was much larger use to hit him and push him around. Max was getting frustrated of course but was also a little afraid of this this big slug. I told my son, that when he feels ready and not so afraid, and that day will come, that he's allowed to hit this kid back, I suggested that he hit the kid hard enough to make him fall down. (sounds terrible now but it's something my dad taught us) Well that day came and Max took the bully down and it all ended there.
Since I was with him most of the time, I tended to lean toward the peaceful remedy. I told him to use his words, and try to walk away when he can, but I was never sure if that was the right thing to say. How can I tell my 4/5 yr old to fight a bigger kid, or hit a big kid back especially when I knew he was afraid.
My husband use to tell me that a boy has to fight back because that's just the rule of survival and that all through a boys growing life some other guy is going to challeng him. I cringed to think that my son may get beat up or someone is always trying to hurt him. But my husband said he will learn when to fight and when to run!!! OMG
Maybe you guys can tell us stories about being boys,lol what the heck to 4/5 6 yr old boys think about anyway?? lol
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My question is, what did you teach your boys about fighting? How about if someone hit him first, or if a girl hit him first.
Does anyone have the same problem with girls? Has anyone's girl been hit by a boy or has hit a boy first? What was the outcome?
Just thought this might be interesting .
haha
