Hi all
gosh where do i start, I am married and have an 18yr old son from a previous relationship, my husband has two children daughter 13 son 11 from a previous relationship and we have a 6yr old son together.
We have been together for nearly 8 years and since being together we had his two children every other weekend.
about 3 years ago my step daughter started saying that she wanted to come and live with us, to cut a long story short we went down the legal route and gained a residency order for both children (must state that their mother wasn't cruel to them just not there for them emotionally). they started living with us on a permanent basis in april 2010.
Things were fine for the first year or so but just lately my step daughter has started getting into trouble at school, we started taking away luxury items like mobile/laptop etc, after confiscating her laptop we logged into her facebook account and to say we were shocked was an understatement, at 13yrs of age she had been having what i can only describe as cyber sex and sending pictures of herself to boys at school. couldn't help but blame ourselves for not regulating her usage of facebook but at 13 never dreamed she would be up to such a thing.
we went up to the school and discussed things with her form tutor etc.
she has always seemed to have a bit of a gripe with me but i just thought this was to be expected from a stepdaughter and it would get better but OH NO
A couple of months ago she threw a bottle at me! she calls me names and tells me she hates me.
today it has kicked off again after she was grounded by her dad for her attitude and somehow it all ended up to be my fault, she went for me 3 times with her fists and when her younger brother tried to tell her to calm down she punched him full on in the face, i really am at my wits end and dont know what to do,i shouldnt have to put up with physical violence,nor should my 6yr old have to witness it. she has no luxury items left to confiscate and it doesn't seem to bother her, myself and my husband try to talk to her but she's not interested we shout at her she just shouts back.
thinking about counselling maybe?
has anybody else been in this situation and how did it work out
getting desperate i fear its going to drive a wedge between my husband and me
many thanks in advance:wacko:
gosh where do i start, I am married and have an 18yr old son from a previous relationship, my husband has two children daughter 13 son 11 from a previous relationship and we have a 6yr old son together.
We have been together for nearly 8 years and since being together we had his two children every other weekend.
about 3 years ago my step daughter started saying that she wanted to come and live with us, to cut a long story short we went down the legal route and gained a residency order for both children (must state that their mother wasn't cruel to them just not there for them emotionally). they started living with us on a permanent basis in april 2010.
Things were fine for the first year or so but just lately my step daughter has started getting into trouble at school, we started taking away luxury items like mobile/laptop etc, after confiscating her laptop we logged into her facebook account and to say we were shocked was an understatement, at 13yrs of age she had been having what i can only describe as cyber sex and sending pictures of herself to boys at school. couldn't help but blame ourselves for not regulating her usage of facebook but at 13 never dreamed she would be up to such a thing.
we went up to the school and discussed things with her form tutor etc.
she has always seemed to have a bit of a gripe with me but i just thought this was to be expected from a stepdaughter and it would get better but OH NO
A couple of months ago she threw a bottle at me! she calls me names and tells me she hates me.
today it has kicked off again after she was grounded by her dad for her attitude and somehow it all ended up to be my fault, she went for me 3 times with her fists and when her younger brother tried to tell her to calm down she punched him full on in the face, i really am at my wits end and dont know what to do,i shouldnt have to put up with physical violence,nor should my 6yr old have to witness it. she has no luxury items left to confiscate and it doesn't seem to bother her, myself and my husband try to talk to her but she's not interested we shout at her she just shouts back.
thinking about counselling maybe?
has anybody else been in this situation and how did it work out
getting desperate i fear its going to drive a wedge between my husband and me
many thanks in advance:wacko: