Ok, so I have a son who is currently a freshman in highschool. He has extremely good grades, and I am always proud of him. He is taking 4 honors courses, and even an AP chemistry course with Seniors because he loves science a lot.
So recently, I got a report card from his school, and he had all A's but chemistry which was an 84, or a B. Now of course, I would never, ever think of punishing him for getting a B in a college chem class. I would be extremely happy and proud even if he just passed! But his first semester in chem, he got an A in chemistry, and his teacher said he was an amazing student.
I guess I didn't make it clear that he did amazing with his grades, because when I asked him what went different in his 3rd quarter than his 1st semester in chemistry, and why his grade dropped, he got really mad. He yelled, "You know what? If a *bleeping* B isn't good enough, I don't know why I even try anymore." He ran upstairs and slammed his door as hard as he could, and knocked a picture off a wall.
I'm not worried about him hating me, but I am worried if his stress levels are much too high if he would get extremely mad at such a little upset like that. How should I approach him with this, and explain to him that I was just asking, and am just as happy with a B as an A? He seems to think that I'm not proud of him anymore. Also, what should I do about how stressed out he is? I am thinking of suggesting him to take easier classes next year, but then he might think I am telling him he did too bad his first year!
Please help, he has been mad all weekend and this entire week.
So recently, I got a report card from his school, and he had all A's but chemistry which was an 84, or a B. Now of course, I would never, ever think of punishing him for getting a B in a college chem class. I would be extremely happy and proud even if he just passed! But his first semester in chem, he got an A in chemistry, and his teacher said he was an amazing student.
I guess I didn't make it clear that he did amazing with his grades, because when I asked him what went different in his 3rd quarter than his 1st semester in chemistry, and why his grade dropped, he got really mad. He yelled, "You know what? If a *bleeping* B isn't good enough, I don't know why I even try anymore." He ran upstairs and slammed his door as hard as he could, and knocked a picture off a wall.
I'm not worried about him hating me, but I am worried if his stress levels are much too high if he would get extremely mad at such a little upset like that. How should I approach him with this, and explain to him that I was just asking, and am just as happy with a B as an A? He seems to think that I'm not proud of him anymore. Also, what should I do about how stressed out he is? I am thinking of suggesting him to take easier classes next year, but then he might think I am telling him he did too bad his first year!
Please help, he has been mad all weekend and this entire week.