I need advice. My wife and I rarely argue but every time I bring up decluttering she seems to become defensive and angry. For example, we have a spare bedroom. The closet is totally filled with toys and books for young children. There are bunk-beds in this room and the top bunk is filled with toys. And there's several shelves with more toys and a toy storage unit that's also filled with such things as Duplo, toy animals and toy cars. There's also a crib set up in the room as well. My oldest two are young adults and my youngest is 13. Here's how the discussion usually goes:
My wife says that men just have no sense of sentimentality. - I don't mind keeping one or two things for sentimental purposes but I would rather see the toys go to less fortunate children who could make use of them rather than gathering dust.
She also says that these things are not causing any harm in that room so why not just leave them. - I would like the room tidied up so it can be used as a proper and neat guest room or for other purposes.
She says that we can save these things for our grandchildren. - None of our children is even currently dating so I see grandchildren being perhaps a decade away. And besides, toys are cheap these days and space is expensive. When we have grandchildren we will probably want to buy them new things rather than pass on old toys.
There are other parts of the house where a similar scenario arises (eg. old files) but perhaps I should just concentrate on the toy issue for now.
Is it normal to hold onto all this stuff? Am I being unsentimental? How should I handle this?
My wife says that men just have no sense of sentimentality. - I don't mind keeping one or two things for sentimental purposes but I would rather see the toys go to less fortunate children who could make use of them rather than gathering dust.
She also says that these things are not causing any harm in that room so why not just leave them. - I would like the room tidied up so it can be used as a proper and neat guest room or for other purposes.
She says that we can save these things for our grandchildren. - None of our children is even currently dating so I see grandchildren being perhaps a decade away. And besides, toys are cheap these days and space is expensive. When we have grandchildren we will probably want to buy them new things rather than pass on old toys.
There are other parts of the house where a similar scenario arises (eg. old files) but perhaps I should just concentrate on the toy issue for now.
Is it normal to hold onto all this stuff? Am I being unsentimental? How should I handle this?