<r><SIZE size="3"><s><SIZE size="125"></s><FONT font="Calibri"><s></s>Hello all and thanks for looking. I am in dire need of some advice. I have 2 stepdaughters, one 13 and other 16, along with our son which is 3. The main issue is with my 16yr old. It’s kind of a long story. Maybe someone here can give me some pointers/advice.<e></e></FONT><e></SIZE></e></SIZE><br/>
<SIZE size="3"><s><SIZE size="125"></s><FONT font="Calibri"><s></s>So she is pregnant, which I understand that not everyone is perfect and do make mistakes, it is how we go about the mistake that will make you stronger in life... Honestly, it does not bother me that she is pregnant; it’s her boyfriend who is the real issue. <e></e></FONT><e></SIZE></e></SIZE><br/>
<SIZE size="3"><s><SIZE size="125"></s><FONT font="Calibri"><s></s>I have told her that I will be there for here and help her as much as she helps herself. <e></e></FONT><e></SIZE></e></SIZE><br/>
<SIZE size="3"><s><SIZE size="125"></s><FONT font="Calibri"><s></s>Little background on this kid. He is also 16 years old. He no longer attends school. Apparently he is going for GED. He has tried to kill himself several times, with the last time he almost got his wish. He spent 3 month in a watch place deal. Now he’s out living at home. This all happened about 3-4months ago, he was released then.<e></e></FONT><e></SIZE></e></SIZE><br/>
<SIZE size="3"><s><SIZE size="125"></s><FONT font="Calibri"><s></s>He never comes over to our house; we always keep that option open, even after all the disrespect he has given to me and my wife. He has sent nasty txt to my wife saying that she was a whore and a slut for getting pregnant at 17 and that her daughter will not end up this way. Stuff along those lines. But hey, he did get my daughter pregnant. I would love to say I told you so. Anyways, among other things he is very controlling, saying that he does not see us in the family picture on holidays, you know stuff like that. He always wants her to stay the night too. <e></e></FONT><e></SIZE></e></SIZE><br/>
<SIZE size="3"><s><SIZE size="125"></s><FONT font="Calibri"><s></s>We allow our daughter to see him every other day, with the other day he can visit at our house. He never shows. On the days we do allow her to go, we give her a time to be home by 7, which she mainly follows.<e></e></FONT><e></SIZE></e></SIZE><br/>
<SIZE size="3"><s><SIZE size="125"></s><FONT font="Calibri"><s></s>I have also had her give us the cell phone after 10pm, because he will chat her up all night. With that said, apparently he is very pissed off at us that we will not let her have the cell after 10. I recently said the hell with it. And we gave in. It frustrates me like all crazy. I just want to cancel the dam thing, but my wife says she needs it. Is this a lost cause? It didn’t change anything with her BF, he just makes up other excuses. Should I just get rid of the phone?<e></e></FONT><e></SIZE></e></SIZE><br/>
<SIZE size="3"><s><SIZE size="125"></s><FONT font="Calibri"><s></s>I only have a few rules. Be off you cell for bed, be off computer at 9 and help out around the house. Everyone once in a while, the rules doesn’t get followed. So I take away the cell or pc for a couple of days. Or ground her, but if I ground her then that’s keeping him away from her and he throws a fit. According the bf, I am trying to control her. I see it at parenting. This kid just doesn’t know how easy she has it.<e></e></FONT><e></SIZE></e></SIZE><br/>
<SIZE size="3"><s><SIZE size="125"></s><FONT font="Calibri"><s></s>His mom says she is here to help, but never comes through. I almost think she is two faced and just playing us. We have received nothing from them for the expecting mother.<e></e></FONT><e></SIZE></e></SIZE><br/>
<SIZE size="3"><s><SIZE size="125"></s><FONT font="Calibri"><s></s>She loves to sit on the computer and play games all day, and when I tell her she need to take a break it stresses her out. I’ve just totally backed off due to the baby. She has mostly stopped talking to me and my wife, it like life is all prefer and dandy. She expects everything and gives nothing in return. She may do the dishes everyone in a while, but it like pulling teeth to get her to do anything. There is no lack of respect from her side<e></e></FONT><e></SIZE></e></SIZE><br/>
<SIZE size="3"><s><SIZE size="125"></s><FONT font="Calibri"><s></s>Among other thing, I am the only source of income in the house. I work my tail off for the greenbacks and it just frustrates me that I am going to have to front everything for someone who has no respect for you.<e></e></FONT><e></SIZE></e></SIZE><br/>
<FONT font="Calibri"><s></s> At this point anything help. Thanks for loking<e></SIZE></e></SIZE><e>[/FONT]</e></FONT></r>
<SIZE size="3"><s><SIZE size="125"></s><FONT font="Calibri"><s></s>So she is pregnant, which I understand that not everyone is perfect and do make mistakes, it is how we go about the mistake that will make you stronger in life... Honestly, it does not bother me that she is pregnant; it’s her boyfriend who is the real issue. <e></e></FONT><e></SIZE></e></SIZE><br/>
<SIZE size="3"><s><SIZE size="125"></s><FONT font="Calibri"><s></s>I have told her that I will be there for here and help her as much as she helps herself. <e></e></FONT><e></SIZE></e></SIZE><br/>
<SIZE size="3"><s><SIZE size="125"></s><FONT font="Calibri"><s></s>Little background on this kid. He is also 16 years old. He no longer attends school. Apparently he is going for GED. He has tried to kill himself several times, with the last time he almost got his wish. He spent 3 month in a watch place deal. Now he’s out living at home. This all happened about 3-4months ago, he was released then.<e></e></FONT><e></SIZE></e></SIZE><br/>
<SIZE size="3"><s><SIZE size="125"></s><FONT font="Calibri"><s></s>He never comes over to our house; we always keep that option open, even after all the disrespect he has given to me and my wife. He has sent nasty txt to my wife saying that she was a whore and a slut for getting pregnant at 17 and that her daughter will not end up this way. Stuff along those lines. But hey, he did get my daughter pregnant. I would love to say I told you so. Anyways, among other things he is very controlling, saying that he does not see us in the family picture on holidays, you know stuff like that. He always wants her to stay the night too. <e></e></FONT><e></SIZE></e></SIZE><br/>
<SIZE size="3"><s><SIZE size="125"></s><FONT font="Calibri"><s></s>We allow our daughter to see him every other day, with the other day he can visit at our house. He never shows. On the days we do allow her to go, we give her a time to be home by 7, which she mainly follows.<e></e></FONT><e></SIZE></e></SIZE><br/>
<SIZE size="3"><s><SIZE size="125"></s><FONT font="Calibri"><s></s>I have also had her give us the cell phone after 10pm, because he will chat her up all night. With that said, apparently he is very pissed off at us that we will not let her have the cell after 10. I recently said the hell with it. And we gave in. It frustrates me like all crazy. I just want to cancel the dam thing, but my wife says she needs it. Is this a lost cause? It didn’t change anything with her BF, he just makes up other excuses. Should I just get rid of the phone?<e></e></FONT><e></SIZE></e></SIZE><br/>
<SIZE size="3"><s><SIZE size="125"></s><FONT font="Calibri"><s></s>I only have a few rules. Be off you cell for bed, be off computer at 9 and help out around the house. Everyone once in a while, the rules doesn’t get followed. So I take away the cell or pc for a couple of days. Or ground her, but if I ground her then that’s keeping him away from her and he throws a fit. According the bf, I am trying to control her. I see it at parenting. This kid just doesn’t know how easy she has it.<e></e></FONT><e></SIZE></e></SIZE><br/>
<SIZE size="3"><s><SIZE size="125"></s><FONT font="Calibri"><s></s>His mom says she is here to help, but never comes through. I almost think she is two faced and just playing us. We have received nothing from them for the expecting mother.<e></e></FONT><e></SIZE></e></SIZE><br/>
<SIZE size="3"><s><SIZE size="125"></s><FONT font="Calibri"><s></s>She loves to sit on the computer and play games all day, and when I tell her she need to take a break it stresses her out. I’ve just totally backed off due to the baby. She has mostly stopped talking to me and my wife, it like life is all prefer and dandy. She expects everything and gives nothing in return. She may do the dishes everyone in a while, but it like pulling teeth to get her to do anything. There is no lack of respect from her side<e></e></FONT><e></SIZE></e></SIZE><br/>
<SIZE size="3"><s><SIZE size="125"></s><FONT font="Calibri"><s></s>Among other thing, I am the only source of income in the house. I work my tail off for the greenbacks and it just frustrates me that I am going to have to front everything for someone who has no respect for you.<e></e></FONT><e></SIZE></e></SIZE><br/>
<FONT font="Calibri"><s></s> At this point anything help. Thanks for loking<e></SIZE></e></SIZE><e>[/FONT]</e></FONT></r>