I am obviously not a step parent but i still think that this is the right place to voice my opinion/ problem
so as you al probably know (cause i tend to go on about it) i have a gorgeous new 12 week old girl named Mikaela with my partner Tim, i also have two other gorgeous children Felix (4) and Alegra (2 and a half) who have a different father who is in and out of the picture as he see's fit.
anyway here is the problem, since Mikaela has come home i have had little to no help from Tim with Felix and Alegra which is what i need right now, Felix is quite happy to do his own thing most of the time but when i am feeding Mikaela, Felix comes over and demands i play with him which i know is just him feeling jealous of the new baby and he gets lots of extra attention when I'm not busy but still the times he wants it is when i can't give it to him. Tim will not help unless i specifically ask him to, even if he is sitting in the same room watching Felix get frustrated he will not step in and play with him.
problem number 2:
Alegra has been what can only be described as naughty lately and she has been hitting Mikaela when she gets a chance. Tim tends to fly off the handle at her and smack her (i don't smack) but not follow up on it. it doesn't matter how many times i explain that she is 2 and just jealous. i have told him that she just wants attention and instead he could ask her why she is hitting Mikaela and then try to fix it etc but he won't.. Alegra is incredibly gentle and loving towards Mikaela when i am holding her but if Tim is sitting down with her Alegra gets rough and aggressive.. why is this?
how can i approach this issue?
so as you al probably know (cause i tend to go on about it) i have a gorgeous new 12 week old girl named Mikaela with my partner Tim, i also have two other gorgeous children Felix (4) and Alegra (2 and a half) who have a different father who is in and out of the picture as he see's fit.
anyway here is the problem, since Mikaela has come home i have had little to no help from Tim with Felix and Alegra which is what i need right now, Felix is quite happy to do his own thing most of the time but when i am feeding Mikaela, Felix comes over and demands i play with him which i know is just him feeling jealous of the new baby and he gets lots of extra attention when I'm not busy but still the times he wants it is when i can't give it to him. Tim will not help unless i specifically ask him to, even if he is sitting in the same room watching Felix get frustrated he will not step in and play with him.
problem number 2:
Alegra has been what can only be described as naughty lately and she has been hitting Mikaela when she gets a chance. Tim tends to fly off the handle at her and smack her (i don't smack) but not follow up on it. it doesn't matter how many times i explain that she is 2 and just jealous. i have told him that she just wants attention and instead he could ask her why she is hitting Mikaela and then try to fix it etc but he won't.. Alegra is incredibly gentle and loving towards Mikaela when i am holding her but if Tim is sitting down with her Alegra gets rough and aggressive.. why is this?
how can i approach this issue?