While my heart does break for what these parents are going through, I feel that once you adopt it is for life, no different then when we give birth to a child.
Needing the states help is one thing, handing over your child like yesterdays newspaper is another. They claim they love him, but if you truley loved him you would not be giving up, you would be fighting to the bitter end to make things right for him. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to know that children are in the foster care system for a reason, most are there because of abuse....not all, my sister was in the system but she had behaviour problem and they had her in a special placement home, but she wasn't abused, those cases are rare, and it did sorda help her.
I just feel bad for this boy, I have to admit I would be afraid of him also, but I would not give up on him. I had a period where I was very afraid of Ted and for Ted, BUT he was my son...period.
I don't see that with these parents.