bill1971 said:
It's not my bank account. It's credit cards I used once for a special offer, paid off and never used again. I am handling it with the card companies. Maybe a letter was sent offering me another deal on the card or whatever. The point is he spent 3000 on one card and 2000 on another. I just wanted to know if I'm being too nice about it. I appreciate people looking out for me financially.
At that point, I think you are being too nice. It's fraud and identity theft. I've had someone steal my Hydro account or use it for their address in my name. I don't know how they did it. Probably stole it from my mail as the building I was living in had a problem with people breaking into mailboxes and stealing mail. So that is one possibility. Anyways, I ended up finding out when I went to open an account for a new address after not having to pay hydro for a few months. I had already paid of my old account so I was shocked to find I had to pay some $200 for an address I had never lived at. Weird part was they didn't have my old address on file and they refused to do anything about it or investigate into it. This was about a decade ago. I was forced to pay off what the con built up in debt and more recently, this year, as I was talking to a creditor, they asked if I had ever lived at some address I never lived at. I told them no and they were like, "oh okay, that's fine. Thank you." Looks like that person may still be trying to use my I.D. for stuff.
Not trying to hijack your thread, I just wanted to add my experience so you won't feel like your alone in this. It's so common and I think parents are the most susceptible because your kids have the easiest access and most of the info on you. Your writing may even be similar to your kids. Of course there is always a difference, but it can be alike enough to forge a signature.
Not all of our kids are going to be doing this to us. I think your son may need to a specialist. If you press charges you can work something out with the judge to get him some help. But I don't think this should be completely left up to you to handle.