About a month ago, my wife and kids paid a visit to my parent's house, so that my daughters can play with my nieces. During the visit, my niece whispered to my daughter "Let's go to the other room and put our tongues together". My wife, fortunately, heard this and asked my daughter what was said just to be sure. My wife handled the situation by explaining that it was wrong. I wasn't there when this occurred and neither was my sister, because we were both at work. My wife told me that what bothered her the most was that my niece said this in a way as if she had done it before. They are 4 years old.
There has been more than one incident that drew concerns, but my wife and I had let them go. Now, it seems that this behavior is getting worse. I tried discussing this, because I want to protect my daughter's and my niece's innocence, but my parent's act like this isn't much if a concern. That they talked to her, and she won't do it again. This led to a heated argument. I haven't discussed this with my sister.
As of now, we don't the source of where she is learning this behavior from. It could be her school, her father's house, or my parent's house.
So because of all this, I told my parents that my daughters can't be there without our supervision, which they say that we are going to far with this.
Are we, or are we doing the right thing?
There is more detail, but I'm just giving the gist.
There has been more than one incident that drew concerns, but my wife and I had let them go. Now, it seems that this behavior is getting worse. I tried discussing this, because I want to protect my daughter's and my niece's innocence, but my parent's act like this isn't much if a concern. That they talked to her, and she won't do it again. This led to a heated argument. I haven't discussed this with my sister.
As of now, we don't the source of where she is learning this behavior from. It could be her school, her father's house, or my parent's house.
So because of all this, I told my parents that my daughters can't be there without our supervision, which they say that we are going to far with this.
Are we, or are we doing the right thing?
There is more detail, but I'm just giving the gist.