I would like some opinions on this as I feel I might be over reacting to this - maybe.
My teen daughter is allowed to go to parties under certain conditions. We try to keep her as safe as possible at these parties and curb underage drinking as much as possible - which is hard these days as kids just seem to be drinking heavily at young ages. Our methodolgy is this - we drive her to all parties and pick her up. She is not allowed to sleep over after a party so that we can be sure she is safe and - if she has snuck a drink - has not had too much.
On the weekend she went to a good friends house for "just a sleep over" (I have spoken with the mother many times and she knows our policies). I spoke with the mother later in the week and she said they had a good time, just hung around the house.
I then found out later that she had driven them to a party and pretty much lied to me about them going anywhere, not to mention my daughter lying about it (which I expect <U>on occasion</U> from a teenager).
I feel this is a terrible breach of trust between parents. Not only is she putting herself in a bad position by taking my daugther to a party that we have not approved but then lying to me hence making me doubt anything she says to me now. I will no longer feel like my daughter is safe at her place.
Am I being unreasonable in being shocked and angry at her?
My teen daughter is allowed to go to parties under certain conditions. We try to keep her as safe as possible at these parties and curb underage drinking as much as possible - which is hard these days as kids just seem to be drinking heavily at young ages. Our methodolgy is this - we drive her to all parties and pick her up. She is not allowed to sleep over after a party so that we can be sure she is safe and - if she has snuck a drink - has not had too much.
On the weekend she went to a good friends house for "just a sleep over" (I have spoken with the mother many times and she knows our policies). I spoke with the mother later in the week and she said they had a good time, just hung around the house.
I then found out later that she had driven them to a party and pretty much lied to me about them going anywhere, not to mention my daughter lying about it (which I expect <U>on occasion</U> from a teenager).
I feel this is a terrible breach of trust between parents. Not only is she putting herself in a bad position by taking my daugther to a party that we have not approved but then lying to me hence making me doubt anything she says to me now. I will no longer feel like my daughter is safe at her place.
Am I being unreasonable in being shocked and angry at her?