We have an 11 year old boy who has always been outspoken, loud and extremely smart. Once he get's into a topic that intrest him, he learns the in's and out's of that topic. He get's really good grades and is very smart in school and all his teachers have always said nothing but good thing about him, except that he talks too much, which is true, sometimes he doesn't stop talking, even at home with us. Aside from all of this, ever since he was about 4 he would show signs of a bad temper when things wouldn't go his way. We just thought that is normal, if a kid doesn't get what they want they get mad and cry but one time he actually said that he didn't want to live anymore and he wanted God to take his life. Years went on and he kept having a bad temper and cry really loud and storming off when we wouldn't give him what we wanted or wanted to teach him how to do things instead. It wasn't too bad until recently. Within the past year he has really taken things to a whole new level with the temper. We just ask him to pickup his thing off the floor and we give him a reason why he should pickup his things and why they should be in his room but he has an excuse for everything. Every little thing we tell him there is an excuse right behind it and when we explain things to him he goes in circles and back around to why he doesn't want to do it. It gets to the point where we tell him that we are going in circles and that we will talk about it once it stops, this just upsets him more and begins to cry and get angry, then we tell him to go take some time to himself and think about what he is saying but then that leads to him storming off and crying and saying that he doesn't want to live anymore and we're the meanest parents around.
We've took him to a psychiatrist and he was able to help him realize some things but he was still very stubborn about his ways. Maybe we need to try someone different? Either way these episodes have gotten worse and have involved him scream his head off in his room that he's so stupid and he doesn't want to live and that he has the worse life. After the last time that happend about three weeks ago he seemed to have changed a bit. We have began to notice changes in his behavior and he has been understanding a lot more lately when we ask him to do something or reasons why he can't do or have certain things. Until yesterday, we told him to pickup his baseball gear and leave it in his room but he didn't want to because he doesn't want to carry it up and down. We explained how we can't leave it in the living room and that he can easily bring it up and down when he needs to change for practice or going to a game but he still had every excuse in the book and still went in circles about everything, then it lead to crying and then us telling him that he needs to go spend time in his room to thinking about things but then that led to an explosion of scream and yelling in his room and wouldn't stop. We took away all of his belongings three weeks ago and I'm sure that help in why he changed his attitude towards everything lately, we started to give him his things back little by little but with yesterday's explosion we took things away again. After he is done with his explosions, he seems to be a different kid and almost act like nothing ever happened. As easily as he gets upset that's how fast he is normal again. We feel like he is just doing this for attention and just saying things so we feel sorry for him and give him what he wants. He tells other family members that he has the worst life and doesn't want to live with us anymore and just wants to leave. They all tell him that he has a wonderful life and good parents and that he just needs to see that. We are so confused and don't know if this type of behavior is normal? should we ignore it? does this happen to other parents? If so what are they doing and are they seeing results? We just don't want him to hurt himself and at the same time we don't want him to grow up thinking it's ok to do certain things when it's not.
We've took him to a psychiatrist and he was able to help him realize some things but he was still very stubborn about his ways. Maybe we need to try someone different? Either way these episodes have gotten worse and have involved him scream his head off in his room that he's so stupid and he doesn't want to live and that he has the worse life. After the last time that happend about three weeks ago he seemed to have changed a bit. We have began to notice changes in his behavior and he has been understanding a lot more lately when we ask him to do something or reasons why he can't do or have certain things. Until yesterday, we told him to pickup his baseball gear and leave it in his room but he didn't want to because he doesn't want to carry it up and down. We explained how we can't leave it in the living room and that he can easily bring it up and down when he needs to change for practice or going to a game but he still had every excuse in the book and still went in circles about everything, then it lead to crying and then us telling him that he needs to go spend time in his room to thinking about things but then that led to an explosion of scream and yelling in his room and wouldn't stop. We took away all of his belongings three weeks ago and I'm sure that help in why he changed his attitude towards everything lately, we started to give him his things back little by little but with yesterday's explosion we took things away again. After he is done with his explosions, he seems to be a different kid and almost act like nothing ever happened. As easily as he gets upset that's how fast he is normal again. We feel like he is just doing this for attention and just saying things so we feel sorry for him and give him what he wants. He tells other family members that he has the worst life and doesn't want to live with us anymore and just wants to leave. They all tell him that he has a wonderful life and good parents and that he just needs to see that. We are so confused and don't know if this type of behavior is normal? should we ignore it? does this happen to other parents? If so what are they doing and are they seeing results? We just don't want him to hurt himself and at the same time we don't want him to grow up thinking it's ok to do certain things when it's not.