This is more of a vent than anything, I know im not doing a single thing wrong, but im really frustrated at the moment.
DH and I are going to a wedding tonight, its an "over 18's only" kind of do, which we completely respect. However the bride has organised for two nannies to host a massive slumber party at her parent's house for the children of those invited. Now, its a lovely idea and it is really sweet of her to think about those children who cant be left alone, however, I let her know with our RSVPs that our kids will not be attending.
To put it bluntly, my 17 year old and my 4 yr old (and all in between) were invited, a 4yr old is going to be bored with the older ones, and a 17yr old is probably not going to be too hyped up about being babysat by a nanny with a group of small children. I discussed it with my kids and none of them wanted to go, so we worked out other things.
Sasha is going to stay with my in laws, he is still only little and the idea of a big sleepover with adults and other kids he didnt know was a bit scary for him, whereas a sleepover at Nan and Pop's house he was very happy about (and really, im not much of an overprotective parent, but im still much more comfortable with the idea of my 4yr old staying with his grandparents than with strangers, I feel like id be able to enjoy my evening more because I know he's safe) Lux and Sunny are going to my SIL's house, she has twin daughters who are 11 and the four of them are inseperable, so theyre excited because SIL is taking them all to the drive ins to see a movie and theyre going to have a fun night. Azriel is staying with one of his friends, apparently theyre having a horror movie marathon, and Dita is staying home and im going to assume that her girlfriend will come over.
All fine. HOWEVER the mother of the bride is a little cut at me over this choice. I just found an email she sent me last night informing me that I cannot just drop my kids off at her house if whatever plans I have fall through because they have catered for only 8 children who will be attending. I emailed her back saying thats fine, and I look forward to seeing her at the wedding. I got a call this morning from DH saying the mother of the bride stopped into his work to pick up a few picture books, which are going to be read by the nannies tonight, he was in a meeting but she made a point to hang around until he got back to let him know that she was disappointed that our kids wont be attending the slumber party and that its too late to change our minds now, but it was going to be the most awesome slumber party ever.
I dont know why she did that. The library branch my husband runs is nowhere near her house, she has to drive by two other libraries in the same district (so her card will work at all of them) just to casually flip through picture books which all branches have and pick out a few, then to hang around until my husband came out of his meeting to gloat about the awesome party. Like he said to me, does she expect a 17yr old, 15yr old, 12yr old and 10yr old to sit down and listen to a nanny read a Maisy book to them?
Im just really annoyed, I didnt say yes then change my mind, it was no right from the beginning, were still going to the wedding, which is the important event here, and really, where my kids are is no business of this woman's.
DH and I are going to a wedding tonight, its an "over 18's only" kind of do, which we completely respect. However the bride has organised for two nannies to host a massive slumber party at her parent's house for the children of those invited. Now, its a lovely idea and it is really sweet of her to think about those children who cant be left alone, however, I let her know with our RSVPs that our kids will not be attending.
To put it bluntly, my 17 year old and my 4 yr old (and all in between) were invited, a 4yr old is going to be bored with the older ones, and a 17yr old is probably not going to be too hyped up about being babysat by a nanny with a group of small children. I discussed it with my kids and none of them wanted to go, so we worked out other things.
Sasha is going to stay with my in laws, he is still only little and the idea of a big sleepover with adults and other kids he didnt know was a bit scary for him, whereas a sleepover at Nan and Pop's house he was very happy about (and really, im not much of an overprotective parent, but im still much more comfortable with the idea of my 4yr old staying with his grandparents than with strangers, I feel like id be able to enjoy my evening more because I know he's safe) Lux and Sunny are going to my SIL's house, she has twin daughters who are 11 and the four of them are inseperable, so theyre excited because SIL is taking them all to the drive ins to see a movie and theyre going to have a fun night. Azriel is staying with one of his friends, apparently theyre having a horror movie marathon, and Dita is staying home and im going to assume that her girlfriend will come over.
All fine. HOWEVER the mother of the bride is a little cut at me over this choice. I just found an email she sent me last night informing me that I cannot just drop my kids off at her house if whatever plans I have fall through because they have catered for only 8 children who will be attending. I emailed her back saying thats fine, and I look forward to seeing her at the wedding. I got a call this morning from DH saying the mother of the bride stopped into his work to pick up a few picture books, which are going to be read by the nannies tonight, he was in a meeting but she made a point to hang around until he got back to let him know that she was disappointed that our kids wont be attending the slumber party and that its too late to change our minds now, but it was going to be the most awesome slumber party ever.
I dont know why she did that. The library branch my husband runs is nowhere near her house, she has to drive by two other libraries in the same district (so her card will work at all of them) just to casually flip through picture books which all branches have and pick out a few, then to hang around until my husband came out of his meeting to gloat about the awesome party. Like he said to me, does she expect a 17yr old, 15yr old, 12yr old and 10yr old to sit down and listen to a nanny read a Maisy book to them?
Im just really annoyed, I didnt say yes then change my mind, it was no right from the beginning, were still going to the wedding, which is the important event here, and really, where my kids are is no business of this woman's.
