Parentasic...please know that right now is not the time for advice, I am not feeling it at the moment. Well you can give advice, just keep it to a minimum.
Most of you know that Sam and I haven't had the easiest ride through her teenage years. Though the last few years have been pretty good, she is stubborn and strong willed. Stubborn to a fault!
I am really pissed so if this bounces everywhere sorry..
A few days ago, Corey (her boyfriend) came over and was talking on the phone. Nothing unusual there, but then he calls Sam out in a hurry and she is on the phone for quite a while. I knew something was up just not the what. When she comes in I ask her what is going on and she tells me I am not going to like it...uh-oh. I am thinking she is going to say she is pregnant . Nope, her and Corey tried out for a reality show.......about teens getting married. They pay for it all and it is California. That doesn't sound like horrible news in and of itself. She is 19 after all, but here is where it get's completely lost on me.
They have no jobs, Sam is in school but it took her 3 years to figure it out. Remember she dropped out at 16, she did get her GED right away but after that she was a bit lost. Corey has an extensive criminal record. I love the boy but because of his record getting a job is going to be a whole hell of a lot harder. So i asked where they planned to live after they were married? Her reply....her here with me and him at his fathers house?! I'm sorry but my married DD is not living with me (I can not support her and Corey) and her husband live at his fathers. Then why bother getting married? Seriously why not just wait until you can live together? As a married couple should.
If you two are meant to be what is waiting 2 years going to hurt? Other then the fact a tv show will pay for it. She tried to pull the whole "you lived with dad's mom when you got married"....um yeah, she had just had back surgery and needed to be taken care of. We both had jobs, I worked since I was 16 and raising other peoples kids. My MIL tried to pull "Well I took you in when you were 17, should I have just left you on the street?".....um hello, I was kicked out of my drug addicted mothers house for being a few minutes late to watch her drug addicted boyfriends children. Where are the 2 situation the same?
I didn't have choices, she does. The she brings Corey over to drop off my truck and after him hanging up on me a couple of nights ago then texting me to not call him cause I won't like what he has to say. I felt the need to say what I had to say. At that point he was respectful and just listened. Discussion over. Sam (as Megan put it) was very aggressive, one step below yelling, I wasn't yelling however, I am tired of being called names. She will not just listen, she has to yell and talk over everything I say. When she doesn't like what I have to say she resorts to name calling. Frankly I am sick of her disrespect.
So at the end of the day, my children and myself will not be attending her marriage. I can not in good faith condone a mistake that will effect the rest of her life. Yes, she has to learn these things for herself, I get that, I also get that I will not let the little ones think they can do whatever they want and mom will just stand by and smile.
The hubby told me to tell her to move out, which I already had done. The last screaming match is just that............the last.
Most of you know that Sam and I haven't had the easiest ride through her teenage years. Though the last few years have been pretty good, she is stubborn and strong willed. Stubborn to a fault!
I am really pissed so if this bounces everywhere sorry..
A few days ago, Corey (her boyfriend) came over and was talking on the phone. Nothing unusual there, but then he calls Sam out in a hurry and she is on the phone for quite a while. I knew something was up just not the what. When she comes in I ask her what is going on and she tells me I am not going to like it...uh-oh. I am thinking she is going to say she is pregnant . Nope, her and Corey tried out for a reality show.......about teens getting married. They pay for it all and it is California. That doesn't sound like horrible news in and of itself. She is 19 after all, but here is where it get's completely lost on me.
They have no jobs, Sam is in school but it took her 3 years to figure it out. Remember she dropped out at 16, she did get her GED right away but after that she was a bit lost. Corey has an extensive criminal record. I love the boy but because of his record getting a job is going to be a whole hell of a lot harder. So i asked where they planned to live after they were married? Her reply....her here with me and him at his fathers house?! I'm sorry but my married DD is not living with me (I can not support her and Corey) and her husband live at his fathers. Then why bother getting married? Seriously why not just wait until you can live together? As a married couple should.
If you two are meant to be what is waiting 2 years going to hurt? Other then the fact a tv show will pay for it. She tried to pull the whole "you lived with dad's mom when you got married"....um yeah, she had just had back surgery and needed to be taken care of. We both had jobs, I worked since I was 16 and raising other peoples kids. My MIL tried to pull "Well I took you in when you were 17, should I have just left you on the street?".....um hello, I was kicked out of my drug addicted mothers house for being a few minutes late to watch her drug addicted boyfriends children. Where are the 2 situation the same?
I didn't have choices, she does. The she brings Corey over to drop off my truck and after him hanging up on me a couple of nights ago then texting me to not call him cause I won't like what he has to say. I felt the need to say what I had to say. At that point he was respectful and just listened. Discussion over. Sam (as Megan put it) was very aggressive, one step below yelling, I wasn't yelling however, I am tired of being called names. She will not just listen, she has to yell and talk over everything I say. When she doesn't like what I have to say she resorts to name calling. Frankly I am sick of her disrespect.
So at the end of the day, my children and myself will not be attending her marriage. I can not in good faith condone a mistake that will effect the rest of her life. Yes, she has to learn these things for herself, I get that, I also get that I will not let the little ones think they can do whatever they want and mom will just stand by and smile.
The hubby told me to tell her to move out, which I already had done. The last screaming match is just that............the last.
