but havne't you ever loved some you're not committed to? I mean I can truly say I truly, deeply love 3 women and am committed to one. I'm not saying everyone does or should, but I think we have the capacity to love more than one. Commitment is a different matter. In order to commit to more than one, you'd need mutal commitment between all of the parties.
I believe love comes in degrees so to speak, as does all emotions. Just to clarify, I'm talking about choosing a life partner, not loving a family member in which case we can love many.
But as for truly loving someone unconditionally, and totally committing my life to being with him, I have to say No, I have never felt that way with more than one person at the same time. When I was younger I thought I loved each boyfriend,and there were times when I was flipping back and forth between two or three boys thinking I felt love for each one, but than my husband came along, and "POOF" that conflict ended.,
It's fine to love more than one person, anything is possible I'm no expert. but I think the degree of love would be different. I think there has to be something connecting you to the one woman, that causes you to both love AND commit to her where as you love but don't commit to the others.
Just MO
hmmm, interesting, (and just a little mod reminder to keep things PG rated here) I thnk that's perhaps because the only examples we have are "families" with one male and multiple women...surely some relationships mus exist with one woman and multiple men, or multiple men and women...if course why would a woman want to be in a relationship with more than one man, unless she's really into frustration and enjoys being upset a lot...
I really believe that if we didn't live in a civilized society men would rule the world, and woman would still be subordinate. I strongly doubt men would insist that woman be treated equally, or vote for a woman to rule anything.
I have read about Polyandry, where a woman has many husbands, and somehow, somewhere in the story it becomes apparent that this is not the woman's idea. It turns out one way or the other that the situation is beneficial to the men involved, and not because the woman demands many husbands or decides she wants to be a ruler. But because it's her culture and she is just told to do so, or she has been picked to marry ALL the brothers in a family. I can't quote from any direct writings right now but this is what I remember about it.
As for today's polygmay relation ships, I'm not sure what they get from it All the woman on this show said they loved the companionship they get from having sisters. They really didn't say to much about what they felt about the man. lol