I really, <I>really</I> don't like my son's boyfriend, and I think I'm figuring out why.
Some background: Morgan has been seeing this guy called Heshi on and off for a little over a year. He confessed to being sexually active when I asked him about it, but assured me he's been using protection. I have never liked Heshi, but until recently it's been just a gut feeling based on seeing them interact.
When they're together, Heshi seems to always be holding onto Morgan. He uses a lot of possessive pronouns (ie. "my Morgan"), and will often override Morgan's decisions, right down to small details. For example, if Morgan goes shopping and Heshi doesn't like, say, a shirt, Morgan will return the purchase. This bothers me quite a lot, especially because Morgan is usually a very independent person.
Still, I was giving Heshi the benefit of doubt. Morgan seems pretty infatuated with him, and he's still stubborn when it comes to <I>me</I>, so I know that whatever I say is going to fall on deaf ears.
Then, earlier today, I had to ask Morgan a question, so I knocked on his bedroom door. He opened it for me while he still didn't have a shirt on, and then threw a sweater on quickly, but I saw what I <I>think</I> he was trying to hide. He had bruises on his arm and his back. They definitely don't look like the sort of bruises that you get accidentally.
So now I'm freaking out. I have NO clue how to bring this up with Morgan without him getting defensive, but I can't say nothing. I'm almost positive that it's from Heshi, and it kills me that my son would put up with any kind of abuse. I have no clue where to start with this.
Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Some background: Morgan has been seeing this guy called Heshi on and off for a little over a year. He confessed to being sexually active when I asked him about it, but assured me he's been using protection. I have never liked Heshi, but until recently it's been just a gut feeling based on seeing them interact.
When they're together, Heshi seems to always be holding onto Morgan. He uses a lot of possessive pronouns (ie. "my Morgan"), and will often override Morgan's decisions, right down to small details. For example, if Morgan goes shopping and Heshi doesn't like, say, a shirt, Morgan will return the purchase. This bothers me quite a lot, especially because Morgan is usually a very independent person.
Still, I was giving Heshi the benefit of doubt. Morgan seems pretty infatuated with him, and he's still stubborn when it comes to <I>me</I>, so I know that whatever I say is going to fall on deaf ears.
Then, earlier today, I had to ask Morgan a question, so I knocked on his bedroom door. He opened it for me while he still didn't have a shirt on, and then threw a sweater on quickly, but I saw what I <I>think</I> he was trying to hide. He had bruises on his arm and his back. They definitely don't look like the sort of bruises that you get accidentally.
So now I'm freaking out. I have NO clue how to bring this up with Morgan without him getting defensive, but I can't say nothing. I'm almost positive that it's from Heshi, and it kills me that my son would put up with any kind of abuse. I have no clue where to start with this.
Any suggestions on how to handle this?