So, here's my thing.....
In alot (not all, but alot) of cases, the only thing the kid cares about is the extra-curricular activity, be it football, band, whatever. They love these things and school is on the side. So, you have to do what you have to do to make an impact on the situation. And, if that involves grounding from participating in marching band or whatever for 2 weeks then so be it. I was extremely involved in band in high school and if my parents grounded me from a performance, i wouldve been crushed. It woud've sent a swift and impactful message and woud've definately disuaded me from the wrong action in the future.
There's a situation that JUST happened to my wife's co-worker. Her son just got arrested for throwing a rock through a window and running from the police....he's 14 and LOVES playing football. He's now grounded from football for the rest of the season. He's crushed. Do you think that maybe he'll now think again before doing something like that? I would think so.
In alot (not all, but alot) of cases, the only thing the kid cares about is the extra-curricular activity, be it football, band, whatever. They love these things and school is on the side. So, you have to do what you have to do to make an impact on the situation. And, if that involves grounding from participating in marching band or whatever for 2 weeks then so be it. I was extremely involved in band in high school and if my parents grounded me from a performance, i wouldve been crushed. It woud've sent a swift and impactful message and woud've definately disuaded me from the wrong action in the future.
There's a situation that JUST happened to my wife's co-worker. Her son just got arrested for throwing a rock through a window and running from the police....he's 14 and LOVES playing football. He's now grounded from football for the rest of the season. He's crushed. Do you think that maybe he'll now think again before doing something like that? I would think so.