Seeing as how this is the most common age most kids either start to or fall victim to bullies, I was wondering on how strongly you parents feel on the issue. I've met many parents who have bullies as childern, and I've gotten many different views on it. One of the most common views was that it is neccsary to growing up to be bullied, and if your kid ends up being the bully, (s)he's just come out on top in the school yard. Another common one was that the parent acknowledges that their child is a bully, but feels that they will either grow out of it or that they can do absolutly nothing about it. I've also seen the "I don't care what you say, so-and-so's name would NEVER do something like that" and the "I will kick so-and-so's butt if they ever bully someone" kinds of parents too.
I suppose this needs a bit of explanation. I came from a very bad school that is known for bullies, and it seems the first two stated mindsets of parents are most common here. I've seen (and had) people throw items at others from their cars like entire half-gallons of milk and uneaten breakfast items, or even go as far as pour sticky liquids all over the windshield of other student's cars. There were also many fights, and people would jump around the corner and scream in your face to make you jump. And if you didn't jump, you were a freak because they couldn't scare you, so you became very, very strange.
But my younger brother is being targetted now by someone known for being a bully. I've talked with his parents and my own about the issue, because most days the bullying is so bad, he'll skip school and is in danger of failing. My parents said they will step in if he tells them anything again, and his parents said that there was nothing they could do because their child is not only out of control but also it is not happening in front of them so they have their doubts. Seeing how both sets of parents have a different idea of bullies, I was wondering how far a lot of people have come from the general idea that all forms of bullying were wrong. And it seems that it has differed a lot nowadays. I was just wondering some parents' opinions on the case, not looking for ways to tell other parents' their jobs or anything.
I suppose this needs a bit of explanation. I came from a very bad school that is known for bullies, and it seems the first two stated mindsets of parents are most common here. I've seen (and had) people throw items at others from their cars like entire half-gallons of milk and uneaten breakfast items, or even go as far as pour sticky liquids all over the windshield of other student's cars. There were also many fights, and people would jump around the corner and scream in your face to make you jump. And if you didn't jump, you were a freak because they couldn't scare you, so you became very, very strange.
But my younger brother is being targetted now by someone known for being a bully. I've talked with his parents and my own about the issue, because most days the bullying is so bad, he'll skip school and is in danger of failing. My parents said they will step in if he tells them anything again, and his parents said that there was nothing they could do because their child is not only out of control but also it is not happening in front of them so they have their doubts. Seeing how both sets of parents have a different idea of bullies, I was wondering how far a lot of people have come from the general idea that all forms of bullying were wrong. And it seems that it has differed a lot nowadays. I was just wondering some parents' opinions on the case, not looking for ways to tell other parents' their jobs or anything.