"normal" 4yo behavior...

[1dayatatime]

What do you consider normal 4yo behavior? Lieing, regressing, hitting animals, using mean words (hate, idioit, and cuss words), taking a really long time to do most things (getting dressed, eating, washing hands), and just a general negative attitude. I'm at a loss.

 

[FooserX]

What do you consider normal 4yo behavior? Lieing, regressing, hitting animals, using mean words (hate, idioit, and cuss words), taking a really long time to do most things (getting dressed, eating, washing hands), and just a general negative attitude. I'm at a loss.

lol....yeah that's not normal unless it's Jeffery Dahmer's kid.

 

[Kaytee]

on some level, some of those things are normal (lying, taking a long time to do things can be normal, and sometimes an attitude) but the rest I agree with Fooser

 

[1dayatatime]

I feel like a crazy person. Have I ever mentioned being a step parent sucks? If I make it till 18 I'M gonna need theraphy. Thats not funny about Dahmers kid. I'm working on it though. I've made an appointment for a professional. I just want the most "normal", healthy blended family we can have. Thats for the response.

 

[fallon]

honestly the hitting and language issues would be of the biggest concern to me. lying is her way of testing her limits, regressing I would say comes from having a little brother and wanting the attention he's getting (we go through it there too) and taking a long time to do things and bad attitude are totally her age. Aggression and language like that however shouldn't be ignored. Good for you for stepping up and wanting to get her help. Where is her mother in all of this? She has to see too right...is she going to support finding out what is causing your little girl to acted out like that? Something is making her feel awful and I think she is lucky to have a mom like you who is willing to go the extra mile to find out what it is.

 

[musicmom]

Sounds like she has ODD. I would for sure get her in to be diagnosed. There are medications if it is in fact ODD. It does not "cure" her but it can help her to behave a bit better. I would not allow this child to be around my other children or to be alone.
Yea, the Jeffrey Dahmer joke wasn't funny at all. This is a serious issue and a very sad one. Keep us posted.
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Please read. The only reason I know this is because a friend of mine has a son with this as well. Please read the bottom of the article. Your child has all the same symptoms.

 

[1dayatatime]

Thanks MusicMom. I have never heard of ODD. Thats really awful. The scary part is Mom has alot of the symptoms of conduct disorder. This information is really good to have but at the same time terrifying.

Fallon- Mom thinks DD issues are our fault. She will often believe DD over my DH and bad mouth us to her. It sounds like this when repeated by a 4yo,"shell is a jerk. Daddy is a jerk" The whole situation is terrible for DD.

I'm really hoping a professional evaluation can help. Mom sorta agrees but just because I'm the root of all evil.

 

[SpitNCobra13]

Everything sounds pretty normal, but dont let him hit animals.

 

[Kaytee]

Thanks MusicMom. I have never heard of ODD. Thats really awful. The scary part is Mom has alot of the symptoms of conduct disorder. This information is really good to have but at the same time terrifying.

Fallon- Mom thinks DD issues are our fault. She will often believe DD over my DH and bad mouth us to her. It sounds like this when repeated by a 4yo,"shell is a jerk. Daddy is a jerk" The whole situation is terrible for DD.

I'm really hoping a professional evaluation can help. Mom sorta agrees but just because I'm the root of all evil.

I don't know much about the dissorder, but it sounds like learned behaviour from the mother in my opinion not some affliction teh child has

 

[FooserX]

>>>Thats not funny about Dahmers kid.


lol....well it was just to let you know hurting animals is NOT normal unless you're evil. That's just sick...and the kid is either messed up in the head, or the parents are not doing their job. Pick one.

 

[Kaytee]

well we already know the mother of htis child is not doing a good job so the child is not evil Fooser. Show a little respect to the parent that is trying to make a difference in this child's life

 

[fallon]

Fallon- Mom thinks DD issues are our fault. She will often believe DD over my DH and bad mouth us to her. It sounds like this when repeated by a 4yo,"shell is a jerk. Daddy is a jerk" The whole situation is terrible for DD.

I'm really hoping a professional evaluation can help. Mom sorta agrees but just because I'm the root of all evil.

I just don't get parents that bad mouth the other infront of the children...it is so sick, and harmful in ways they don't understand...Good luck to you and DH. I hope your dd gets help she needs