urgh. How can I get my boyfriend to pop the question already! lol. we talk about it a lot and I know he's been talking about it with his family and other people. But then when he sees me looking at dresses and stuff online he gets all weird. Men. Anyway. know anyways I can trick him into asking soon rather then later (he's the type to drag his feet) lol. I wanna be made an honest woman. haha
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If he's talking to you, his friends, and his family its probably a lot closer than you think.
As for the being weirded out when he sees you looking at dresses. Its probably because he thinks your moving to fast...not that he's not going to ask you soon, and not that he's not read. Jet that be hasn't even asked you and you're already planning.
BTW. Amber (my wife) apparently had a dress, photographer, and caterer all in mind before I even asked her. That's what freaked me out.lol
As for the being weirded out when he sees you looking at dresses. Its probably because he thinks your moving to fast...not that he's not going to ask you soon, and not that he's not read. Jet that be hasn't even asked you and you're already planning.
BTW. Amber (my wife) apparently had a dress, photographer, and caterer all in mind before I even asked her. That's what freaked me out.lol
Tell him you are a born again virgin and you are saving yourself for your wedding night.
Just kidding!!
I can't help you with this one. I ask my husband to marry me
Just kidding!!
I can't help you with this one. I ask my husband to marry me
Guys are often slow to pull the trigger. If I read your profile, you already have three children, and certainly that's an added factor to an already-huge commitment.
I know this seems radical, but have you talked to him about it? I mean, it's such a ridiculous taboo in our society. I'm divorced now, but 8 years into my marriage, in therapy, it came out that she had always been angry with me because I'd "taken too long to propose." Really? Why didn't she say anything at the time?
Anyway, just find a quiet time, sit him down, and tell him you'd really like to get married. You don't have to "propose" to him, but you could certainly get a sense of where he stands on it, maybe set some general timelines.
Isn't that sort of communication about difficult topics the hallmark of a truly good relationship? Why not start now?
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I know this seems radical, but have you talked to him about it? I mean, it's such a ridiculous taboo in our society. I'm divorced now, but 8 years into my marriage, in therapy, it came out that she had always been angry with me because I'd "taken too long to propose." Really? Why didn't she say anything at the time?
Anyway, just find a quiet time, sit him down, and tell him you'd really like to get married. You don't have to "propose" to him, but you could certainly get a sense of where he stands on it, maybe set some general timelines.
Isn't that sort of communication about difficult topics the hallmark of a truly good relationship? Why not start now?
~S
sbattisti - the little baby they have together is the only child involved, I think actually.
And you know macoops, all you can do is wait! lol and throw some hints! My husband and I didn't get married until after we were together for like four years. It doesn't change anything really lol, just a pretty ring and a piece of paper, and of course the title. Everything else, still the same. Don't worry, he will ask in his own time. I bet he wants to have the ring and stuff all prepared first. And if it takes too long, then you could always ask!
And you know macoops, all you can do is wait! lol and throw some hints! My husband and I didn't get married until after we were together for like four years. It doesn't change anything really lol, just a pretty ring and a piece of paper, and of course the title. Everything else, still the same.
Don't worry, he will ask in his own time. I bet he wants to have the ring and stuff all prepared first. And if it takes too long, then you could always ask! 
sbattisti said:
:wink: now that is something i would do!
Ask him or wait. He knows it's what you want so unless you take the first step you are gonna just have to hang on.
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Now have him read the top part out load and scream Yes before he has a chance to realize what he just asked
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Now have him read the top part out load and scream Yes before he has a chance to realize what he just asked
Maybe his taste in clothes is different from yours
Seriously though I think if he gets the feeling he is being hounded, he might start to panic and dig in.I can understand your need to be a proper family and I figure that's what little Jackson needs more than anything else and I hope it works out for you.
Seriously though I think if he gets the feeling he is being hounded, he might start to panic and dig in.I can understand your need to be a proper family and I figure that's what little Jackson needs more than anything else and I hope it works out for you.
lol! I really don't hound him. I don't bring it up first. Anyway. I guess I'll just wait.Satori said:Maybe his taste in clothes is different from yours
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Doesn't mean I'm going to stop looking at dresses though. I'm the "like the be prepared" type. haha.
Sorrymacoops said:
You know - if he has discussed it with his family, I think you can be pretty sure that he will ask at some point. Perhaps he's planning something grand, or to do it on some special day, or perhaps he's just searching for the perfect ring before he does. There's a lot of pressure on a guy to get the proposal "right", you know
If it is really that important to you, then talk to him. Its way better than resenting him for years like sbattisti's wife (WTF?), but if you think you can without it becoming a problem, perhaps be patient for a bit longer? It doesn't sound like you will have to wait too long...
Oh, and look at dresses all you want, but don't let him catch you.
If it was me and I caught my GF looking at wedding dresses before I'd even asked her, it would freak me out a little too - like, wow, do you have a date already? Am I on a deadline here that I don't know about?
would you really wanna get married to someone who was forced into it!!! I no I wouldn't...
Either you bite the bullet and ask him @ the perfect moment or take a chill pill... if the marriage and proposal aren't genuine then whats the point?
good luck ma...x
Either you bite the bullet and ask him @ the perfect moment or take a chill pill... if the marriage and proposal aren't genuine then whats the point?
good luck ma...x