Well, DH and I are now living with his 10-year-old daughter (my step-daughter), Ella. We've been living together since around August/September time. We get on fairly well, she has no problems with me (thankfully) and there is definately a (step)mother-daughter bond there.
I was just wondering, what are your relationships like with your step-children? It's just there may be half-siblings for her soon (er, we're hoping that there will be, we've just had a positive pregnancy test and a doctor's appointment ), and we're wondering if she'll have any problems with that. I just want to know from your experiences, how you told your step-children that you were expecting (and your children, I guess, they could get jealous of siblings as well). She's fine with the baby that we lost last year, probably because it wasn't actually born and that it doesn't change anything, if you see what I mean, it's just a sad memory of something that didn't happen. But maybe a real baby might make her very distant? We have a great relationship, recently we've been closer than ever (almost like a real mother and daughter) and I don't want that to go.
I'm hoping that she'll be fine (she's had to cope with a lot, after all), but I'd just like to have some idea of what works and what doesn't, and maybe how to involve her with the baby, buying things and stuff so she doesn't feel left out. Thanks!
I was just wondering, what are your relationships like with your step-children? It's just there may be half-siblings for her soon (er, we're hoping that there will be, we've just had a positive pregnancy test and a doctor's appointment ), and we're wondering if she'll have any problems with that. I just want to know from your experiences, how you told your step-children that you were expecting (and your children, I guess, they could get jealous of siblings as well). She's fine with the baby that we lost last year, probably because it wasn't actually born and that it doesn't change anything, if you see what I mean, it's just a sad memory of something that didn't happen. But maybe a real baby might make her very distant? We have a great relationship, recently we've been closer than ever (almost like a real mother and daughter) and I don't want that to go.
I'm hoping that she'll be fine (she's had to cope with a lot, after all), but I'd just like to have some idea of what works and what doesn't, and maybe how to involve her with the baby, buying things and stuff so she doesn't feel left out. Thanks!