So, I've met another girl who, well, I dunno. Let's just say I want to keep seeing her...
BUT. Between work and taking care of the house and the garden and the two of us, I have very little time left to spend with my DD - just playing and talking and what not. Also, since I started running again, even Saturdays are often occupied. (Let me just say here, I am not willing to give that up. I'm a better person, and a better dad when I get my regular serotonin fix )
The problem is that, given what I've said above, I feel guilty to leave my DD with someone else and go out. I feel that she should be my first priority, and that I should put spending time with her above spending time with a woman who may not even remain in my life for a long time. And spending time with the two of them together isn't an option either, since the general recommendation seems to be that you shouldn't introduce potential partners to you children unless you are sure the relationship has a future. I'm not even sure we can call this a relationship at this stage...
So I'm looking for advice, I guess from other single parents or former single parents. I know there are a number of people on here who have children from past relationships - how did you find the balance? How do you deal with the guilt? I don't want to be the dad who's so busy dating that he doesn't have time for his child, but I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life either... So I'm caught between a rock and a hard place and I don't know what to do about it.
BUT. Between work and taking care of the house and the garden and the two of us, I have very little time left to spend with my DD - just playing and talking and what not. Also, since I started running again, even Saturdays are often occupied. (Let me just say here, I am not willing to give that up. I'm a better person, and a better dad when I get my regular serotonin fix )
The problem is that, given what I've said above, I feel guilty to leave my DD with someone else and go out. I feel that she should be my first priority, and that I should put spending time with her above spending time with a woman who may not even remain in my life for a long time. And spending time with the two of them together isn't an option either, since the general recommendation seems to be that you shouldn't introduce potential partners to you children unless you are sure the relationship has a future. I'm not even sure we can call this a relationship at this stage...
So I'm looking for advice, I guess from other single parents or former single parents. I know there are a number of people on here who have children from past relationships - how did you find the balance? How do you deal with the guilt? I don't want to be the dad who's so busy dating that he doesn't have time for his child, but I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life either... So I'm caught between a rock and a hard place and I don't know what to do about it.