Trixie,
You are the parent, and it is your DUTY and responsibility to raise your kid right! Not only is she smoking cigarettes, she's LYING to you! And here you are feeling bad that you followed your intuition and caught her. Not only that, you posted you were going to keep giving her money for cigarettes!! lol
What the hell?
A kid has ZERO privacy while they are living under your roof and your care. We as parents need to do EVERYTHING in our power to look after our kid and make sure they are on the right track. That involves snooping, following sometimes, etc etc. It's not a bad control issue...it's about keeping your kids on the path.
I totally think you did the right thing by reading her emails (what if it were drugs????) and I think you are doing the WRONG thing by not punishing her for lying. That is horrible to me...
Just my thoughts.
You are the parent, and it is your DUTY and responsibility to raise your kid right! Not only is she smoking cigarettes, she's LYING to you! And here you are feeling bad that you followed your intuition and caught her. Not only that, you posted you were going to keep giving her money for cigarettes!! lol
What the hell?
A kid has ZERO privacy while they are living under your roof and your care. We as parents need to do EVERYTHING in our power to look after our kid and make sure they are on the right track. That involves snooping, following sometimes, etc etc. It's not a bad control issue...it's about keeping your kids on the path.
I totally think you did the right thing by reading her emails (what if it were drugs????) and I think you are doing the WRONG thing by not punishing her for lying. That is horrible to me...
Just my thoughts.