Lots of info out there good and bad. I know quite a few people have strong opinions on this. So LETS GET READY TO RUMBLE!!!
I have spanked a couple of times. Not recently but it is not something I wish to remove from my tool box.
When I have spanked it has been out of concern for my son's or someone else s safety. I feel there are times it is appropriate. Time's when something needs highlighted. And I admit I think they need to understand the law of escalating consequences.
I have never done it out of anger. Never more than a couple of swats. Never with anything but an open hand to the bottom. And have always taken the time to explain why.
I received spanks several times growing up. As an adult and a parent (not received as an adult or parent). I think I had them coming. I think they were done more to help me than to harm me. And I believe the desired effect was achieved. I remember why I was spanked.
So when I talk of spanks this^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ above is what I am talking about. Not a routine of daily, weekly, monthly spanks. Not a "all hell is breaking loose" spank. And not something that I ever want to do. But rather because I believe they are necessary and relevant to the situation.
I have spanked a couple of times. Not recently but it is not something I wish to remove from my tool box.
When I have spanked it has been out of concern for my son's or someone else s safety. I feel there are times it is appropriate. Time's when something needs highlighted. And I admit I think they need to understand the law of escalating consequences.
I have never done it out of anger. Never more than a couple of swats. Never with anything but an open hand to the bottom. And have always taken the time to explain why.
I received spanks several times growing up. As an adult and a parent (not received as an adult or parent). I think I had them coming. I think they were done more to help me than to harm me. And I believe the desired effect was achieved. I remember why I was spanked.
So when I talk of spanks this^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ above is what I am talking about. Not a routine of daily, weekly, monthly spanks. Not a "all hell is breaking loose" spank. And not something that I ever want to do. But rather because I believe they are necessary and relevant to the situation.